Dating in Kansas City for 30 plus year olds...... (Rea, Denver: 2013, job transfer)

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by Georgiapeach32

How so? You are a guy so dating someone younger might not be a problem however for a woman who is in her 30's in a city where few 30 year olds are singles lends few options. I don't want some 23 year old or some 50 year old.

Again, I had no problem finding dates when I was single (and in my thirties). Just saying. I dated a range from 26-42, so,yeah, single guys in that age range are, indeed, out there.

Also, I'm a transplant who moved here six years ago, was already 30 when I arrived...not a rah-rah-KC-homer, so it's not about "Oh, my beloved city."

[Georgiapeach32]

Originally Posted by TabulaRasa

Again, I had no problem finding dates when I was single (and in my thirties). Just saying. I dated a range from 26-42, so,yeah, single guys in that age range are, indeed, out there.

Also, I'm a transplant who moved here six years ago, was already 30 when I arrived...not a rah-rah-KC-homer, so it's not about "Oh, my beloved city."

Good for you!

[MoNative34]

Originally Posted by TabulaRasa

Again, I had no problem finding dates when I was single (and in my thirties). Just saying.

You had no problems because you're a rarity in KC. Never married, not dragging multiple kids, educated, you make it on your own, etc...

Of course guys are going to be drawn to that versus the usual dime-a-dozen divorced single mothers with a fat butts and butch haircuts that's pretty damn prevalent in KC.

[Lady300]

I'm so glad a thread was created about this. I thought it was perhaps my unique situation. I'm a professional black woman with two Masters degrees. My job relocated me here from DC. Dating has been a real piece of work here but like I said I thought it was because I was a professional black woman. Here in KC, I just don't meet many black men on my level and professional white men just aren't as receptive to interracial dating, particularly if you are a black woman. In DC, there were lots of professional black men and lots of white men who didn't think twice about being in a relationship with a black woman. Making friends isn't easy either. I joined a church only to be treated odd because I wasn't married nor had children. I befriend one other woman who has since moved away that said the same thing.

My job has a sister company in Denver and I'm currently trying to see if I can get transferred to Denver. I hear it's a better place for professionals to mingle and date. I feel KC is an excellent place to live if you are married with children. Family life here is unmatched and that's for sure. Great neighborhoods and great schools. For singles, it's not so great. Sure there will be some who have lucked up but for that one who lucked up, there are like 50 who haven't lucked up. I say spread your wings and fly. Come back when you find your significant other and have children.

[TabulaRasa]

Originally Posted by MoNative34

You had no problems because you're a rarity in KC. Never married, not dragging multiple kids, educated, you make it on your own, etc...

Of course guys are going to be drawn to that versus the usual dime-a-dozen divorced single mothers with a fat butts and butch haircuts that's pretty damn prevalent in KC.

That's nice of you to say, but I don't think I'm a rarity at all...most of my friends are in similar or the same boat. And, come to that, while I am never married, never divorced, no kids, educated, have long hair, and can make it on my own, there are those who would assuredly consider my butt to be fat...but I'm okay with that. It didn't hinder me much, if at all.

[Georgiapeach32]

Originally Posted by Lady300

I'm so glad a thread was created about this. I thought it was perhaps my unique situation. I'm a professional black woman with two Masters degrees. My job relocated me here from DC. Dating has been a real piece of work here but like I said I thought it was because I was a professional black woman. Here in KC, I just don't meet many black men on my level and professional white men just aren't as receptive to interracial dating, particularly if you are a black woman. In DC, there were lots of professional black men and lots of white men who didn't think twice about being in a relationship with a black woman. Making friends isn't easy either. I joined a church only to be treated odd because I wasn't married nor had children. I befriend one other woman who has since moved away that said the same thing.

My job has a sister company in Denver and I'm currently trying to see if I can get transferred to Denver. I hear it's a better place for professionals to mingle and date. I feel KC is an excellent place to live if you are married with children. Family life here is unmatched and that's for sure. Great neighborhoods and great schools. For singles, it's not so great. Sure there will be some who have lucked up but for that one who lucked up, there are like 50 who haven't lucked up. I say spread your wings and fly. Come back when you find your significant other and have children.

Denver is much better! People there aren't as brainwashed by the religious BS like they are here.

[Georgiapeach32]

Originally Posted by TabulaRasa

That's nice of you to say, but I don't think I'm a rarity at all...most of my friends are in similar or the same boat. And, come to that, while I am never married, never divorced, no kids, educated, have long hair, and can make it on my own, there are those who would assuredly consider my butt to be fat...but I'm okay with that. It didn't hinder me much, if at all.

By Kansas City standards, you are!

[SPonteKC]

If you are in your 30s and still blaming where you live for your dating struggles, then the problem is you. Expect to live lots of different places that are "hard to find dates in".

[GraniteStater]

Originally Posted by s.davis

If you are in your 30s and still blaming where you live for your dating struggles, then the problem is you. Expect to live lots of different places that are "hard to find dates in".

A big part of the problem is not enough people wait until after 30 BEFORE getting married OR having kids in the KC region. It is a social culture issue more than anything and it is becoming more bizarre compared to other parts of the country these days. I watch trends and I am in the GIS industry and have an extensive knowledge of demographics to track the data.

[Nanox]

Originally Posted by GraniteStater

A big part of the problem is not enough people wait until after 30 BEFORE getting married OR having kids in the KC region. It is a social culture issue more than anything and it is becoming more bizarre compared to other parts of the country these days. I watch trends and I am in the GIS industry and have an extensive knowledge of demographics to track the data.

Okay, can you please share the data? Let's hear your extensive knowledge of demographics on the subject, so us less intelligent people can understand this bizarre social culture that is so prevelant in the Kansas City region.