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Single middle aged guy here...youthful and try to stay active. Work out three times a week, etc. Just realized have no real close friends...they all married/divorced, etc and drifted out of my life years ago. Have gotten complacent, and have not put myself out there much the last few years after a dating breakup...like live music but not really into drinking and the club scene. Hear that lonliness is like smoking 15 cigarettes a day as you get older, so need to get back out there. Tired of internet dating and looking for low budget ways to meet new people. Any suggestions are appreciated on how/where to find common interest clubs and so forth. Thanks!
You sound EXACTLY like me. I can only tell you what I've tried: Meetup.com, classes (I took an improv class and Salsa), new hobbies. I don't know...none have worked for me, but at least I tried. Next is online guitar lessons, bike riding, more classes at the gym. Its hard, especially if you're an introvert and have some social anxiety like I do. Meetup.com is very hit or miss. In all honesty, I haven't pout too much effort in it in the last year. Lots of nerdy misfits is what I found. But I think its different everywhere.
I was also going to suggest meetup. There are facebook groups too. Meetup IS hit and miss and people are very flaky, they just won't commit to things. There aren't many nerds where I live. But meetups are still the best way I've found to make friends.
I'm a middle-aged woman (42), single and having a blast. MeetUp is a great place to start - I have joined a writer's group and been a member for nearly a decade. Those people are wonderful, and the group has spawned another writer's group that is more specialized. I'm going on a date with a guy I met in one of the groups next month.
I'm involved in dog sports and spend a lot of time training my dogs. Through these sports I've met a ton of other people.
I'm currently renovating my house with the intention of hosting events for my friends here, like game nights and dinners. The work needed to be done, but I'm going to align the end results with my interests and goals.
I'm in Denver. Musical events and breweries are great places to meet people here. There's also a lot of hiking groups and if you're into working out probably some crossfit too. Probably the same wherever you're located too.
My advice is basically to just GO OUT. And get a dog if you like dogs. They are incredible social lubricant.
I'm a middle-aged woman (42), single and having a blast. MeetUp is a great place to start - I have joined a writer's group and been a member for nearly a decade. Those people are wonderful, and the group has spawned another writer's group that is more specialized. I'm going on a date with a guy I met in one of the groups next month.
I'm involved in dog sports and spend a lot of time training my dogs. Through these sports I've met a ton of other people.
I'm currently renovating my house with the intention of hosting events for my friends here, like game nights and dinners. The work needed to be done, but I'm going to align the end results with my interests and goals.
I'm in Denver. Musical events and breweries are great places to meet people here. There's also a lot of hiking groups and if you're into working out probably some crossfit too. Probably the same wherever you're located too.
My advice is basically to just GO OUT. And get a dog if you like dogs. They are incredible social lubricant.
I stay active by traveling. Living in one place for too long bores me, so I relocate often for work. Thankfully, I have a job that allows me to live just about anywhere. I move when I want to. Currently in CO, but won't stay too much longer. My kids are grown and I have nothing tying me down. So, after 1.5 years I've decided to return to the east coast where I am not so land-locked. The EC geographic location just works better for my lifestyle. Currently, I find fulfillment by exploring new cities, experiences new cultures and meeting people. I enjoy my solo, nomadic lifestyle. Loneliness can't catch me I guess.
I'm a middle-aged woman (42), single and having a blast. MeetUp is a great place to start - I have joined a writer's group and been a member for nearly a decade. Those people are wonderful, and the group has spawned another writer's group that is more specialized. I'm going on a date with a guy I met in one of the groups next month.
I'm involved in dog sports and spend a lot of time training my dogs. Through these sports I've met a ton of other people.
I'm currently renovating my house with the intention of hosting events for my friends here, like game nights and dinners. The work needed to be done, but I'm going to align the end results with my interests and goals.
I'm in Denver. Musical events and breweries are great places to meet people here. There's also a lot of hiking groups and if you're into working out probably some crossfit too. Probably the same wherever you're located too.
My advice is basically to just GO OUT. And get a dog if you like dogs. They are incredible social lubricant.
The dog advice is good. I have a cat. She's a great pet, but obviously I don't take her out. I'm about to start looking at dogs and trying to figure out what breed I want. I'm looking at possibly getting a Pembroke Welsh Corgi or a Double Doodle. I'm also going to volunteer at an animal adoption place.
How about
* joining a book club through your local library
* learning a card game like bridge (find lessons)
* volunteering with a dog rescue group — they need people for lots of different things
* Taking up some kind of class at your local community center or just joining the volleyball league
* Joining a running group — some small althetic gear shops have info
* Joining the Sierra Club — they may have hikes or backpacking events for singles but even just their regular hikes are great
* taking a regular class in adult ed at your local community college
OP: Maybe just take a rest on the Looking scene. The above member has some very good ideas. Why not be of service to others for a while and then now and then etc...people meet people that way too.
The dog advice is good. I have a cat. She's a great pet, but obviously I don't take her out. I'm about to start looking at dogs and trying to figure out what breed I want. I'm looking at possibly getting a Pembroke Welsh Corgi or a Double Doodle. I'm also going to volunteer at an animal adoption place.
I just started volunteering at an animal shelter, and I really enjoy. It hasn't been great for meeting people so far, but the dogs love the attention and going for walks, and they are always so happy to see me. (I have a cat, too, but she hates dogs so I won't be able to get a dog until she passes away).
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