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Old 03-12-2011, 05:19 PM
 
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Hey everyone, I have something to say, some feelings I need to express. I do not know anyone here, I do not expect you to know me. I just need write out some thoughts and feelings at this point in time, I'm not expecting to get anything out of anyone from this. Just get my mind some rest.

I've lived Miami all my life, I'm currently in college here. I've never really fit in to the what seems the majority crowd around here. Partying, drinking, drugs are some things I've never seen the need to get into. However, this has left me isolated as I've seen it hard to find friends outside of these circles.

I'm an honest, responsible, caring human being. I've found it hard to find similar people of my age around here interested in friendship. This has also left me lonely.

My social skills are decent, I smile, I always keep a pleasant, friendly demeanor. I can hold a conversation. I've joined clubs, I've tried meeting people everywhere.

I still find myself alone, more so than ever before. And as this spring break dawns upon me, I feel alone in a world where every other college student is having fun with his friends. At the point in my life where I should be having the time of my life. I'm not. I'm just here, sitting on a computer, withering away, no idea what to do, pondering how to resolve my misery.
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Old 03-12-2011, 05:51 PM
 
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Read "Bowling Alone".

You should consider yourself lucky, in my opinion, most people are "friends" with someone for a benefit, or gain, once that gain is over, so are you.

True ties have to be made through real means, real struggles and commonality, not "hey let's go drink beer and talk to chicks" BS.

An example of this is there are many people in the military and police force that end up having life long bonds with someone they worked with, they had something more deep in common and experience than a simple college class or cheap community volunteering event.
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Old 03-12-2011, 05:52 PM
 
Location: Parkland, FL
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Have you tried volunteering? Maybe at a animal shelter? That could be a good way to meet quality, good hearted people.
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Old 03-12-2011, 06:27 PM
 
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You simply won't find what you're looking for here. This place is weird. There are no subcultures there are very few types of people here. If you are young i suggest you get out. you will have lots more fun elsewhere. i came here to live a quiet peaceful life and indulge in my interests. i was never a socialite and never cared much for people anyway but this place taught me to really hate them. strangely i find when i go somewhere else i am incredibly interesting to people and everyone wants to get to know me and i get along well with everyone.

but not here.

but at the same time perhaps what makes me interesting is my adventures here in this place.
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Old 03-12-2011, 07:33 PM
 
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Get married
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Old 03-12-2011, 09:05 PM
 
Location: Miami
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Blue, I sympathize with you. I am in the exact same situation as you described. I never understood Miami. So I gave up trying to understand Miami and decided to enjoy my life the way I want, not what everyone is doing. I focused on my studies, my diet and training, and started to try many new things regardless what anyone says. Screw the naysayers! I haven't felt so free since doing that.

Start enjoying what you do and sooner or later you'll meet someone.

Maybe you, me and Forever lonely guy should go grab drinks someday.
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Old 03-12-2011, 09:07 PM
 
Location: Up North
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BlueBlueBlue, I kind of get where you are coming from. I have a very small amount of friends and they all party, which isn't something I'm into, but I do drink once and a while.

Being college aged in Miami and not being into partying can be quite interesting, because you really notice how many people are into cocaine, pills, and being too hungover to care about classes.

I have a question. What if you had a few decent people around your age to hang out with, what activities would you want to do? Hobbies? Places you would want to spend time with others?
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Old 03-12-2011, 09:10 PM
 
Location: Up North
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Blue, I sympathize with you. I am in the exact same situation as you described. I never understood Miami. So I gave up trying to understand Miami and decided to enjoy my life the way I want, not what everyone is doing. I focused on my studies, my diet and training, and started to try many new things regardless what anyone says. Screw the naysayers! I haven't felt so free since doing that.

Start enjoying what you do and sooner or later you'll meet someone.

Maybe you, me and Forever lonely guy should go grab drinks someday.
I want to come! But with a name like forever lonely guy, well that sounds a bit scary...
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Old 03-13-2011, 04:28 AM
 
Location: Eastern Time
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FOREVER LONELY GUY??? what the!!!?

It's FOREVER ALONE guy!!!
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Old 03-13-2011, 04:30 AM
 
Location: Eastern Time
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You guys should watch Welcome to the NHK, an animated series that follows the life of a hikikomori.
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