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i've noticed how much it can change others' perspective in terms of calling you up for a movie, dinner, or just hang out..
definitely dont think its a holier than thou attitude, but it can be quicker to midtown from Astoria or Hoboken vs uptown/downtown, but it seems once you leave the island you may as well be in Alabama to some.
im actually moving back to the UES to be closer to work, but in my brief stint 'away,' this was quite apparent. once news to colleagues and friends spread that i was back in manhattan, my social calender automatically filled up for the month, even though i was closer to downtown from hoboken, lol.
I think all the different boroughs and NJ, LI and Westchester have different alienation factors to them. To me, being in Brooklyn is not an issue, and neither would being in Queens. In Brooklyn I feel far closer to 99% of the places that I would go to shop, eat or hang out in Manhattan than I was in the UES, which I actually found to be the most isolating, NONE of my friends wanted to go up there because they all lived in Brooklyn. Actually, all of my friends are in Brooklyn now. IMO, I think there's a huge difference between living in Queens and Brooklyn versus all of the other areas. Also it depends on where you work, where you were before, and where your friends are. It's not really one-size.
i've noticed how much it can change others' perspective in terms of calling you up for a movie, dinner, or just hang out..
definitely dont think its a holier than thou attitude, but it can be quicker to midtown from Astoria or Hoboken vs uptown/downtown, but it seems once you leave the island you may as well be in Alabama to some.
im actually moving back to the UES to be closer to work, but in my brief stint 'away,' this was quite apparent. once news to colleagues and friends spread that i was back in manhattan, my social calender automatically filled up for the month, even though i was closer to downtown from hoboken, lol.
Sounds like you have a bunch of pretty shallow colleagues and friends.
Hope it will make you feel better about yourself now that you are back in Manhattan.
NYC is, as they say at NYU where I used to write copy, "a city of neighborhoods." When someone moves to a new hood, it eventually becomes like their own small town, when they get to know the shopkeepers, frequent the local movies, businesses, etc. New Yorkers in general get lazy and hate to "commute" to their friends whether in another borough or a mile away.
This seems to be a universal thing, but Manhattanites are probably the worst. I moved from Manhattan to the Bronx btw, and it's a pretty lonely ride in a way. There are attractions that people will travel near and far to see such as the Zoo and Botanical Gardens, but of course there's the stigma of the Bronx. That's ok; I'm happy with the way it is for the most part, with some exceptions (I've written on other threads re: the discrimination I've experienced since moving here, but most people are nice.) I'm now very attached to the hood, the store owners, the vibe, and taking the train to the city involves a monumental effort. Usually I only go to visit my elderly aunt on the LES or my doctor in midtown (lol).
People in Manhattan normally will not come out to other boroughs to socialize. One who doesn't live in Manhattan nearly always has to go there to see people.
NYC is, as they say at NYU where I used to write copy, "a city of neighborhoods." When someone moves to a new hood, it eventually becomes like their own small town, when they get to know the shopkeepers, frequent the local movies, businesses, etc. New Yorkers in general get lazy and hate to "commute" to their friends whether in another borough or a mile away.
hah so true, except i wouldnt say a mile id say 5 block radius! i dont think its oh you live in BK now mentality or anything like that.. its because once youre in your apt in manhattan, its kind of like your settled .. going back out = saying hi to doorman, taking train if different neighborhood, dealing with crowds, so even though its only a 10 min cab ride or subway it feels like a lot to have to get out and meet a freind crosstown.. now if that friend is seperated by a river triple that "burden."
always thought it was an NYC mentality as when i go to LA people dont care so much if we have to drive 45 mins for dinner to meet.
Sounds like you have a bunch of pretty shallow colleagues and friends.
Hope it will make you feel better about yourself now that you are back in Manhattan.
LMAO
Yeah people that live on the island tend to just want to stay there and not venture out as much as the outer borough inhabitants.
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