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I lent a close family member a large amt who promised to pay me back. I knew that they were in financial trouble but I told them to give me 'something' every month and I would be happy.
Five years later and I have a total of $100 paid back.
My motto is think of giving money as a gift and if you get it back that is a bonus
^^^ this!!! Hubby and I loaned $3000 to a brother in-law and in return, he invited us to dinner and clubbing the same night and blurted out "go ahead order anything...sky is the limit!!!" when we were handed the menu, wth! Right there and then, I said to myself, "goodbye $3000..." and I was right...that was the last gift he's ever received from us!
Here's my rule: loan the money if you are prepared to never see it again. Can you write off $2,000 and not stress it? If so, by all means, help a friend out.
a friend, we have not connect each other for about 1 year, who suddenly ask me to borrow $2000 to her, i am very contradictory, and my close friend and bf suggest me not, how can i do?
ask her for to borrow you $3,000 instead... and her lawnmower, and a couple of DVDs.
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a friend, we have not connect each other for about 1 year, who suddenly ask me to borrow $2000 to her, i am very contradictory, and my close friend and bf suggest me not, how can i do?
Is this friend stuck in an airport in London without a passport because she was mugged?
I wouldn't unless it was a very close friend... and being that you have not spoken for a year that doesn't seem to be the case.
Just say that you're not comfortable lending out that kind of ammount., I mean $2000 just like that? Anyone should understand not willing to do that, it's almost a months salary for like a standard medium-low wage job here...
Don't play the fishing game and get caught on that line
she is inconsistent as a friend... and that says.. not a friend at all.
Did she remember your birthday and bring you a gift and a hug?
if you just need to stroke your ego by giving her money so you can feel like a good person, then you should donate money instead to a worthy cause..
feed some hungry children then you can be a good person not a foolish one...
This person is fishing and you're the bait.
Why not simply put the money there on the windowsill and turn the fan on so the money can just fly away.
This inconsistent (unreliable) person will NEVER pay you back and nothing is worse than remorse.. well, maybe the feeling of rocks in your stomach when you realize the mistake you've made.
Last edited by CourageMom; 11-07-2011 at 04:42 PM..
My philosophy on lending money is, if I lend money to you, then soon I will be just like you, needing to borrow from someone. I have no one from whom to borrow. My friends and family know better than to ask. Simply, "I don't have it" is always a good answer.
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Right there and then, I said to myself, "goodbye $3000...
" and I was right...that was the last gift he's ever received from us!
Don't play the fishing game and get caught on that line
