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but i am aware and in perspective (i think i'm an empath) of others misfortune but it doesn't make me feel better that someone else has it worst, in fact it makes me feel worst that they have it worst because i can't stop their suffering or mines.
It really is just another way of saying "Count your blessings." I see what you're saying, I think... that thinking of others who have circumstances that are even worse can make you even more sad/down. I have this problem - getting a bit down about all of the horrifying pain/abuse/destruction that people or animals are suffering every day. It does *not* make me feel better about what I have, but what does make me feel better is rejoicing in the strength that people and animals exercise through their existence. Another way to think of it is "Think of those who have it worse..." and are still strong in their faith/happiness/resolve/way of being.
lol i hate that. when you feel bad, somebody says something
stupid that they thought would help you feel better but it
only makes you feel worse. you will be like "thanks a lot,
genius!"
First it your topic has nothing to do with relationships unless you are being specific to a relationship.
After that people are trying to help you move along because they are trying to be nice or they are tired of hearing every moment of every day how terrible your life is even though most of the time the choices YOU have made are making your life so terrible and you don't do anything to change it besides make MORE bad choices and the circle goes around again.
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. Another way to think of it is "Think of those who have it worse..." and are still strong in their faith/happiness/resolve/way of being.
ah yes, i like it when the misfortunate rise to the top.. but no one never tells me about those people , they just tell me about the helpless who may never be saved.. but i really do like when people rise up, those are the kind of people who stay with me and give me hope for a better tomorrow.
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First it your topic has nothing to do with relationships unless you are being specific to a relationship.
After that people are trying to help you move along because they are trying to be nice or they are tired of hearing every moment of every day how terrible your life is even though most of the time the choices YOU have made are making your life so terrible and you don't do anything to change it besides make MORE bad choices and the circle goes around again.
i just didn't want it to go to the non-romantic relationships because they don't get as many replies as relationship forum
then again i have no idea where it would go if it doesn't go to either one of these
i just didn't want it to go to the non-romantic relationships because they don't get as many replies as relationship forum
then again i have no idea where it would go if it doesn't go to either one of these
It will likely go to mental health.
I agree that it doesn't help to be told to chin up by saying to someone, think how much more fortunate you are in comparison to others. However, as others have said, it's putting things into perspective and not spending an insufferable amount of time wallowing in self pity that can sometimes bring us out of that place of glum and doom. I too feel others peoples pain deeply, ( I've have to watch myself about that sometimes,) but when I or others wallow in what ails us, savor it, make it an everyday mantra, I lose patience and won't contribute to a pity party even if it's my own pity party. To me snapping out of it, seeking, counsel, what ever way is appropriate for the individual if it the pain goes to deep to handle on ones own, doing something other than just rinse and repeat and never a positive result other than to bug the heck out of those closest to you, to me is what works best.
But again to what you first said, I would, rightfully, want to smack someone that said that to me if not being a person that wallows in self-pity. That slap, in and of its-self, would probably make me feel oodles better
If I am down, don't ever tell me to think about people that have it worse. That will really send me over the edge. I don't know how to feel about people that feel better knowing that there are others in worse pain than they are. If anything, it makes me feel guilty that I can't do anything about other people's pain.
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