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Originally Posted by CMMom
Well, I understand how people can jump to conclusions without knowing the people involved. As an example, my 9-year old daughter (being a typical 9-year old) conspired with a friend to get that friend included in a trip my parents were going to take to see Christmas lights (one of the drive-through deals). My mother spent no less than 10 minutes on the phone with my husband discussing all the possible things that could go wrong ("What if the child gets hurt? I don't have a release to take her to the hospital") and telling us how she is "too old" to deal with other people's children. These 9-year olds are quite self-sufficient, and we're talking about a total of 2-3 hours driving through a light display (there and back), not sword-swallowing or snow skiing.
I understand the whole "don't rain on her parade" mentality, but I see what I see and hear what I hear. The novelty will wear off and the day-to-day grind will begin. I will, as promised to all of you here, mind my own business and keep my mouth shut. The majority of posters here feel that I am selfish, jealous, and "disordered" to worry about this. I think I'll just stick with my own problems from now on and let my family fend for themselves. Sorry, but I am a little frustrated.
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And, seeing your post about how your Mother reacted to one extra child...I see you are probably just following the due course in your family. IF your Mom spent 10 min. stressing over a drive to see Christmas lights...Than what you are expressing about your Sister maybe your family norm.
Sorry...But, if you can see how your Mom was a bit over the top...Why can't you see how over the top you are....w/out taking offence....Just acknowledging that you are a lot more stressed than normal folks might be, over something that truly isn't your call...whether your sister has a baby & when.
I truly think it is hard for you to see this...and I get that perhaps your Mom modeled some of this angst...Not dissing your Mom or You. Just connecting the dots.....You may be over-reactive because your Mom is/was...
I strongly urge that you get some counseling...I can attest that it can help so much. It is simply a tool sometimes, getting someone else's perspective....much like trying to get opinions.....but a counselor is trained in how to give you tools, and help you to develop healthy coping skills w/out offending...some of us may not mean to offend...but come across as though we do....typing words is not the same as a counselor saying w/ genuine caring and concern in their voice that you need to discuss why you feel so strongly about this...And you get an opportunity to discuss back and forth...Without someone else saying hateful things and making things worse and sort of derailing the thread ....I am ony suggesting to help....honestly.
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