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You don't know these people so there's nothing lost by writing them off. You haven't invested anything into this just yet. Why invite that sort of tension into your life?
The husband is probably one of those men who is always blaming his wife for his unhappiness and then cheating on her with women who feel sorry for him. It happens all of the time. Tell your friend to quit helping this man deceive his wife.
I would write an anonymous letter to the wife and put it in the mail.
Don't do this. You will setting in motion a chain of events that you cannot predict or control. Let the friend go to counseling. Let her end the affair. If everyone is lucky, no one will be the wiser. The marriages will continue. If the cheating husband continues to cheat, he will be found out eventually.
Why should the OP tell a woman she met once at a party that her husband is having an affair? They're not friends and not even acquaintances, they met once. Bad advice.
Think about it, if a stranger you met once told you something very personal and upsetting what would you think? And than add on I can't reveal the names.
You're right about putting some distance with this dear friend, not only did she drag the OP into an awful situation she isn't a very nice person. What else is she capable of. I would tell her I don't want to hear anymore and distance myself. Not all friendships are meant to last forever.
There's really no "right" way or "easy" way to handle this situation. I'm sure you & I would disagree on many things. But this is about the OP, not you or I, and she is going to have to figure it out.
I've always found its best to discuss a serious issue like this with one trusted person, like a counselor or advisor, not solicit multiple opinions....that's a recipe for disaster. But, to each his own.
There's really no "right" way or "easy" way to handle this situation. I'm sure you & I would disagree on many things. But this is about the OP, not you or I, and she is going to have to figure it out.
I've always found its best to discuss a serious issue like this with one trusted person, like a counselor or advisor, not solicit multiple opinions....that's a recipe for disaster. But, to each his own.
It is the wrong way when as the poster above you pointed out about setting off a chain of events that you can't control and can cause more chaos.
Put on your thinking hat, if a total stranger walked up to you and told you something devastating about something in your life, how would you react? Most people would be very offended and in disbelief. They would probably think the person telling them this was crazy. You don't do that.
And the reason the OP posted this situation, is because she can't figure out what to do.
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They're not friends and not even acquaintances, they met once. Bad advice.
