Wrapped Around the Finger (children, brother, sister, house)

[disneygogetter]

I have this guy friend who is living in this small apartment paying 1,300 a month, his mom, his sister, and the sisters daughter all living under the same roof in the small place. But the sister of his is making $20 bucks an hour which is about 3,000 bucks a month she is well off of moving out and getting her own place. But yet she chooses to stay living at home or she goes out to dinner, parties, etc.

So this guy has to be the one to pay for half the rent, the mom puts in some money and the sister puts in only a little bit or never pays at all. This guy does want to move out and live on his own but yet he can't because he has to help pay for rent and other bills.

To me it sounds like the sister is being selfish and has the family and her brother wrapped around her finger. He says he will move out but its going to take a year or so but I see it to never happen really. What should my friend do? What would you do in this situation?

[yankeegirl313]

Tell him to have a "family time-out!" He needs to figure out how much every individual needs to pay a month, for their living expenses, or get out. That simple!

[germaine2626]

Originally Posted by disneygogetter

I have this guy friend who is living in this small apartment paying 1,300 a month, his mom, his sister, and the sisters daughter all living under the same roof in the small place. But the sister of his is making $20 bucks an hour which is about 3,000 bucks a month she is well off of moving out and getting her own place. But yet she chooses to stay living at home or she goes out to dinner, parties, etc.

So this guy has to be the one to pay for half the rent, the mom puts in some money and the sister puts in only a little bit or never pays at all. This guy does want to move out and live on his own but yet he can't because he has to help pay for rent and other bills.

To me it sounds like the sister is being selfish and has the family and her brother wrapped around her finger. He says he will move out but its going to take a year or so but I see it to never happen really. What should my friend do? What would you do in this situation?

I'm confused. Guy pays $650, Mom "some money" and Sister "a little bit or never pays at all" so who pays the rest? I'm guessing the Guy ends up paying the rest.

How about the Guy goes to the landlord with his half of the rent money and then the landlord needs to get the rest from Mom & Sister.

Or the Guy can give notice and make arrangements to rent a room in someone's house or move to a tiny, tiny inexpensive efficiency apartment or couch surf for a few months. I'll bet if Sister realizes that she will soon have to pay the full $1,300 she will be happy to start to kick in $650 plus her share of all of the utilities.

Another idea, Maybe Brother should only be paying $325 a month as there are four people living there?
Suggest that he tell his sister that information. He should then be able to save up for his own place pretty quickly when she starts to pay her fair share.

If he doesn't "grow a pair" soon he will likely have his mother and sister and her children living with him for the next decade (or two or three).