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Back to the original question. Yes, I find it difficult to make new friends as we grow older.
Most of them are married, in relationships, have kids or their own things going on....
I find it difficult as well because of the above statement and because most my age are married (I'm divorced) and/or have children, I find that I do not have anything in common with them so there is no need of establishing anything beyond acquaintance.
Based on the freelance nature of my work, I make friends easily enough through the document review community. However, outside of work it's a little harder. I've gone to some functions hoping to meet new people, but people can be awfully cliquish.
Frankly a cigar shop is the best way to make friends.
The older one gets the harder it is to make friends. I guess people at that age are more aware of their places in the society. They’re a lot more conscious about what they own, how they spend, social status they’ve achieved, their social circle, how they’re perceived, etc. Therefore they tend to be much more critical and judgmental than when they were much younger. It’s hard to bestow friendship and become friends with strangers easily at that age and with that mentality.
I don't think anything is wrong with you. I am 38 and I have not made a real friend in years. I just recently learned that it is ok to be picky in this area. Why? Because one should be around those that will celebrate one not just tolerate one. I am just now learning the difference. I also think that is why I have put myself in unhappy situations trying to have a "friend". Now, I have a list I go by when choosing friends or lovers and the number one quality on the list is--character.
I have many acquaintances I am 'friendly' with; however, as far as I'd consider someone being a 'friend' in the true sense of the word, that number is very small. This has pretty much been the case my entire life and has nothing to do with my age.
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