When People Drain You

[malamute]

Originally Posted by MyAnon

Maybe I'm becoming intolerable myself because of my intolerance, lol. Please advise. What's the trick to tolerating insufferable people who have ties to things and others you need to stay in touch with? Or do you think I am the one needing to adjust my attitude?

If you really have to be at some event with people you find difficult, like a family event, you can stay as far away as you can from them, keep any conversation as light as you possibly can, excuse yourself from the conversation at the first chance.

[chrysalnix]

It sounds to me like when you went out with this woman to get her away from Mr. Overbearing, it was done with good intentions. It's not your fault she's an insufferable, arrogant bore. How were you to know she would be that way until you actually spent time with her?

Consider it a lesson learned and try to stay away from people like that. Sometimes we're stuck with them, especially if you have to work with them. All you can really do is be honest: "I'm sorry, but I'm really busy right now." Use the "blank stare" if needed, like if they're being nosy or inconsiderate by trying to force you to watch them talk about themselves. I can't stand blabbermouths. If you are talking to the part on top of my head, it means I'm busy or I find you boring. LoL

They are draining. Short of boxing them up and sending them overseas, all you can do is keep reminding them you're busy. Even if you're not. Maintaining boundaries with these fine folk is exhausting because they just don't care whether people like them or not.