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I introduced my boyfriend to my Mother a few weeks ago and ever since she's been constantly asking about him and when can she talk to him again. She even started to ask to hang out with him a couple of times while I was at work. She is starting to hang out with him almost as much as I do like taking him out to lunch and they went to see a couple of movies I think. My mom dosent have too many close friends of her own, so I'm guessing that's why she is so clingy to him. My boyfriend thinks she's trying to be friendly so he just goes along with it because she's my mom so he's just trying to show some respect. But this **** still annoys and bugs the hell outta me for some reason..am I wrong for being so irritated or what. Some advice please thanks:-)
It does sound strange. However, if people are ok with it, it should be ok.
But it looks like your boyfriend and you are not ok with it. You have every right to say so. Maybe your mom wants to date your boyfriend, or maybe she just wants to hang out with him as her new son. It doesn't matter. If you two are not ok with it, you should end it.
But what if the three of you spend some times together? Maybe she is just too lonely.
I introduced my boyfriend to my Mother a few weeks ago and ever since she's been constantly asking about him and when can she talk to him again. She even started to ask to hang out with him a couple of times while I was at work. She is starting to hang out with him almost as much as I do like taking him out to lunch and they went to see a couple of movies I think. My mom dosent have too many close friends of her own, so I'm guessing that's why she is so clingy to him. My boyfriend thinks she's trying to be friendly so he just goes along with it because she's my mom so he's just trying to show some respect. But this **** still annoys and bugs the hell outta me for some reason..am I wrong for being so irritated or what. Some advice please thanks:-)
It's not "normal" but it might be somewhat normal for a lonely person who is trying to be friendly and stay close to her only daughter and her boyfriend.
I think the best thing would be to include her sometimes but othertimes make it clear it's a couple's only date. Or ask her if there's someone she'd like to bring along so it's a double-date. One easy way to get rid of her is to find dates for her --- get her some blind dates and she may start avoiding the two of you like the plague.
It's not "normal" but it might be somewhat normal for a lonely person who is trying to be friendly and stay close to her only daughter and her boyfriend.
I think the best thing would be to include her sometimes but othertimes make it clear it's a couple's only date. Or ask her if there's someone she'd like to bring along so it's a double-date. One easy way to get rid of her is to find dates for her --- get her some blind dates and she may start avoiding the two of you like the plague.
wull yes, your right, but then wouldn't you do things together with the two of them, instead of just entertaining the boyfriend?
I introduced my boyfriend to my Mother a few weeks ago and ever since she's been constantly asking about him and when can she talk to him again. She even started to ask to hang out with him a couple of times while I was at work. She is starting to hang out with him almost as much as I do like taking him out to lunch and they went to see a couple of movies I think. My mom dosent have too many close friends of her own, so I'm guessing that's why she is so clingy to him. My boyfriend thinks she's trying to be friendly so he just goes along with it because she's my mom so he's just trying to show some respect. But this **** still annoys and bugs the hell outta me for some reason..am I wrong for being so irritated or what. Some advice please thanks:-)
Maybe your mom is an undercover detective and is trying to get the scoop on your boyfriend to see if he's good enough for you to date (and possibly marry). Or maybe your mom wants your boyfriend.
As the other posters have mentioned, it's more likely that your mom is lonely and is just looking for a male companion to hang out with since your dad passed away several years ago. I would recommend helping your mom meet new people to make new friends and go on dates. That way she leaves both you and your boyfriend alone on your dates and can have her own separate social life.
How did the talk w/ your mom go? Hope it all went well!
Perhaps your boyfriend could just say no to your mom about going places and not answer her calls. His relationship is with you, not her. Or is it?
I'm thinking the same...what's wrong with the boyfriend that he can't take care of this. The only reason Tess is uncomfortable with this is because he isn't/hasn't set the mother straight...and I'm wondering why not!!!
Is it possible that your mother has very few friends because she isn't a good person?
It sounds like she is trying to date your boyfriend behind your back. Where were you when they went on these dates....working every time they went out? Why weren't you invited? You are not even sure how many times they have gone out!
You have two problems. Your mother and your boyfriend.
OP, i have a question, how come u havent been on these outings? are they not inviting you? i think its wrong for your mom to take a sudden interest in your boyfriend and its even alarming that she and him are going out to movies and such--without u. u have 2 problems, ure mom and ure boyfriend.
be up front with her, tell her that its a little strange the amount of the time that they r spending together. tell your bf the same thing.
--u know what im thinking./.. do u have a big birthday or event coming up? maybe they are planning something spectacular for u or maybe ure bf wants t propose to you and asked your mom to go ring shopping with him.
if u are feeling really suspicious, u may need to spy on them. lol seriouslywhen they go to the moies slip into the theater and see how they act together.
A widow with one child. She sounds very lonely. I would:
1. ask the boyfriend to decline from now on when she invites him to do things. He can say he's busy, sick, whatever.
2. YOU spend more time with your mom. Occasionally, the three of you go out.
3. Any chance boyfriend has an uncle he can set her up with?
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