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This had been eating at me lately . 17 yrs ago I sort of dissapeared on a man I was seeing because my crazy ex husband threatened to put a bullet in his head . Now my ex was a stone cold serious drug dealer and we were divorced at the time that this all happened . I had to dissapear according to my aunt in order for him to leave me alone . She helped me do it and this was before the internet and other things used to track people down nowadays . She gave me the money and told me to leave the state and basically hide . I knew the ex would not look for me outta state . So it is what I did . I thought it best for all partys involved . My ex was serious about hurting this guy . I could not let that happen . I sent a message on facebook to him and I wanted to clear my consceince and this guy was in love with me and wanted to marry me . My ex died in a shootout with the police two years ago . I just wanted to know did I do the right thing is saying Im sorry for dissapearing . I would not want to go around wondering if someone I cared about just dissapeared because of me or something I did . I hope I did the right thing . I dont like leaving regrets behind you know ?
Are you already Facebook friends with this person? Just to let you know, if you are not "friends" on Facebook, your message might have gone into a black hole. I once sent a person I wasn't Facebook friends with a note, at the same time I requested her as a Facebook friend. She accepted the friend request but it took months for her to see my message, I think because I had sent it at a time when we weren't yet "friends" and it ended up in a folder called "other message" that no one ever looks at.
I think it would be great to send an explanation to this man - but doubt if Facebook is the best means of doing that - as others have noted, there's a good chance he might not see the message, while on the other hand, it might be far too public.
Why not locate him and write him a letter? Old-fashioned means of communication, I know, but it would be private and you could say whatever you wanted to say without fear of it being read by those who would have no reason to read it.
1. when I tried to call him his number had been changed 2. I dont have a current addy on him and cannot find one and I dont have any excess money sitting around to pay for one of those places to find it out ....just to explain a few things .
After 17 years he could probably give a rats ass!!! Why is this bothering you lately? Your profile states you are married - how will your current husband feel about you contacting your old boyfriend? Why are you keeping tabs on this guy all these years later - even the ex who died two years ago? I doubt your friend has been pining away for you all these years - he would have contacted you if he were interested. Sounds like he's moved on - and you should too.
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