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"Do you find that people envy you your independence and try to copy you?"
I don't believe so; I feel sorry for people who are obviously pathologically dependent to the point where they can't go to the bathroom by themselves, but I don't see them "envying" me my independence and self-sufficiency; in fact, I think they pity me in my isolation and loneliness, as they see it, not realizing that alone isn't necessarily lonely -- especially for an introvert! Mostly, I think, extroverts or dependent types just consider us "lone wolf" types weird or somehow damaged... And certainly highly suspect!
I'm an introvert and I don't have a "worse" life! Other people might see it differently, but I feel more relaxed, and happiest, when I can lose myself in a project, or reading, or whatever, and just be. I don't have a need for interaction with many people; I get my fill at work. When I am not single, I REALLY get my fill...sometimes it feels like too much. It feels restraining (and draining) to have social connections because I get stressed about managing them. Maybe one night every two months I'd want to go "out." So all those other times, I have to apologize and just say "no." But then your "friends" get annoyed, and hurt, and upset.. and it's just too much emotional drama for me to concern myself with. I'd just as soon feel lonely one night every two months! Or go out on my own lol.
I prefer to be alone with my own company. And no, we lone wolves are hardly damaged, or weird...saner than the pack as a whole I'd reckon
I'm an introvert and I don't have a "worse" life! Other people might see it differently, but I feel more relaxed, and happiest, when I can lose myself in a project, or reading, or whatever, and just be. I don't have a need for interaction with many people; I get my fill at work. When I am not single, I REALLY get my fill...sometimes it feels like too much. It feels restraining (and draining) to have social connections because I get stressed about managing them. Maybe one night every two months I'd want to go "out." So all those other times, I have to apologize and just say "no." But then your "friends" get annoyed, and hurt, and upset.. and it's just too much emotional drama for me to concern myself with. I'd just as soon feel lonely one night every two months! Or go out on my own lol.
I prefer to be alone with my own company. And no, we lone wolves are hardly damaged, or weird...saner than the pack as a whole I'd reckon
yup, so true, just had the same thing happen. We go out to eat, every Friday, and afterwards, the girls go to someone's home and watch a movie or just have coffee....which is nice....but for the past two months I've been bowing out.....first, just had spinal surgery, therefore, it was way to painful to walk in their home, sit down and get up again, get in the car and drive home. Also, I'm up very early and I've always explained that to them, but recently one of the girls said, they all thought I was angry about something? And I've told them over and over again....but gosh, I must be angry about something....I don't need negative friends like that....it really hurts when they refuse to understand.
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