How do you feel about visiting relatives sleeping at your house? (wife, person)

[tar21]

I'm of the opinion that they should stay at the house during the day but get a hotel to sleep at, whats your opinion? Also what's your age and position in life (married, single, kids) for reference?

[Pitt Chick]

I have no problems with overnight guests, be they relatives or friends. Or even strangers for that matter (like touring choirs and the like!).

So if grandma came to visit, and you have the room for her to stay, you'd kick her out in the evening? Or is your place just too small?

[Nicci6Squirrels]

My parents stayed at my house for about a week not long ago. I have a guest room and, well, they're my parents. :-)

My best friend also stayed recently. Part of the fun of her being here was getting up in the morning and having coffee together, hair all disheveled, sleepy eyes and all.

But, if it were someone I knew "less well," then I might be less inclined to WANT them to stay overnight. But that doesn't mean I wouldn't still extend the invitation. It seems to be the hospitable thing to do. Especially if they're related!

[1010Guy]

A friend and I traveled half way across the country to visit another old friend, in Florida. This friend had a big house with only he and his wife living there. He did not offer for us to stay there so we stayed in a motel. I thought that was not very friendly until I realized that the Florida friend just fit us in to his golf schedule while we were there. Only spent time with us that he felt he had to.

It reinforced my theory that most people we think of as friends are really just acquaintances.

[NDak15]

I don't mind guests staying but Ben Franklin said best when he said "visitors and fish stink after three days." This doesn't mean I have a strict three day limit but much longer and you do wear out your welcome.

[arleigh]

I pretty much think of most folks I know as acquaintances .
If I have room in my house, I have let friends stay, and I will sleep on the lazy boy (not very comfortable for sleeping).
I have an acquaintance /friend I stay on her sofa some times if It's been late .
My parents did the same thing for people ,when I was growing up.
It's harder in society now days to maintain distant relationships, because those closer to you in proximity, are getting more of your immediate attention, a more involved commitment level.
I recommend that if you are going to see some one you haven't seen in a long time, get a hotel room and retain the acquaintance level accommodation ,rather then assume they will be able to drop every thing they are doing to accommodate you.
Even the best of fiends will discover snoring that is unbelievable, or some other habit they never had before.
In some situations I brought my own tent and air mattress fully intending on camping in the person's back yard.
There are times I wished I had slept out side ,in stead of being talk into sleeping on their couch.
People like their privacy, and I like mine.

[ScarletG]

Originally Posted by tar21

I'm of the opinion that they should stay at the house during the day but get a hotel to sleep at, whats your opinion? Also what's your age and position in life (married, single, kids) for reference?

I don't mind guests who make arrangements with me beforehand so i know when they will arrive and leave. I certainly wouldn't expect them to get a hotel.

[johngolf]

We have some friends that are 120 miles away. We visit back and forth several times a year. We have worked it down to a schedule we all enjoy. Arrive day 1 about 4-5pm. Drinks and dinner at home. Day 2 the fellows play golf, the wife's either hang around the house or go shopping. Day 2 evening the visitors take the hosts to dinner. Day 3 all 4 out to a late breakfast and the guests leave to go home. Any longer a visit can get to be a what do we do now.

If someone we had not seen it quite a while then one more day would work but after that, enough is enough.

[rzzz]

I don't really have a problem with most visitors like that, aside from my parents. My parents always fill up the place with food I would never buy, do home "improvements" i didn't ask for, watch TV for hours with the volume very loudly and seem to require constant entertainment. In contrast even my sister and her young kids are easier guests.

[phonelady61]

I like hotels better sorry I wont impose on anyone by staying at their house overnight . I prefer to find a close hotel and you don't know how many times I have been asked to visit because I have this policy . I expect the same from my relatives and friends as well .