New Brother In Law is very unfriendly- how to respond? (wife, spouse)
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So at the last family gathering everyone wanted to meet the new husband of one of my wife's sisters, Dave. They had met through the personal ads and had only dated four months before getting married. He had been married three times before and brings six children from previous marriages who are living with him to join the three kids my wife's sister brings.
He is no Mike Brady and I suspect the kids of this huge blended family are going to get along as well as the Brady Bunch. (The 1970s TV Show)
What really left an impression on me is how unfriendly the new husband (Dave) was at the event to introduce him to the extended family. Many people tried but could not get much more than a couple of words out of him. He works in sales so it is not a case of him being shy. He is incredibly good looking and self confident and makes lots of money and has quite the LinkedIn page.
So after the event my wife's elderly mother asked me, "So what do you think of Sue's new husband Dave?" How should I respond and how should I interact with Dave in future events?
So at the last family gathering everyone wanted to meet the new husband of one of my wife's sisters, Dave. They had met through the personal ads and had only dated four months before getting married. He had been married three times before and brings six children from previous marriages who are living with him to join the three kids my wife's sister brings.
He is no Mike Brady and I suspect the kids of this huge blended family are going to get along as well as the Brady Bunch. (The 1970s TV Show)
What really left an impression on me is how unfriendly the new husband (Dave) was at the event to introduce him to the extended family. Many people tried but could not get much more than a couple of words out of him. He works in sales so it is not a case of him being shy. He is incredibly good looking and self confident and makes lots of money and has quite the LinkedIn page.
So after the event my wife's elderly mother asked me, "So what do you think of Sue's new husband Dave?" How should I respond and how should I interact with Dave in future events?
Tell the truth.
Continue to be yourself. If that's not good enough for Dave then so be it. I wouldn't go out of my way.
Sounds like he may be standoffish off the job...
If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything. I fear your sister made a big mistake, judging from the guy's track record, so just hope for the best and don't add to her burden.
If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything. I fear your sister made a big mistake, judging from the guy's track record, so just hope for the best and don't add to her burden.
My did my wife's mother ask me what I thought about Dave if she didn't want a true honest answer? I have to assume that she asked me the question for honesty not political correctness.
If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything. I fear your sister made a big mistake, judging from the guy's track record, so just hope for the best and don't add to her burden.
I'm in favor of the truth but a "no comment" response is perfectly fine. A made up one just to be nice is not.
For many people money is the most important thing in a relationship. I do not know what it is like but I have heard of people being addicted to money and power.
I suspect this is the case here...
Yet another thread in the same tired old vein from the indefatigable OP. I rather doubt that your mother in law (who must be in her mid to late 80s) would ask your opinion about anyone in the family given your intense dislike and criticism of every single one of 'em.
It doesn't really matter what anyone thinks of him -- not your spouse, lol.
It is likely he felt awkward, examined and out of place.
I would simply say, if so queried, that I haven't had enough conversation with him to form an opinion.
A perfectly graceful response. I have a couple of in-laws where it took years to be really comfortable with each other. I wouldn't make any snap judgements, and certainly wouldn't voice them this early in the game.
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Originally Posted by STT Resident
Yet another thread in the same tired old vein from the indefatigable OP. I rather doubt that your mother in law (who must be in her mid to late 80s) would ask your opinion about anyone in the family given your intense dislike and criticism of every single one of 'em.
I'm not sure what your point is, in commenting on every single thread of a poster you have such disdain for.
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