In-Laws taking over my home, marriage suffering!! HELP!

[willow wind]

In my state shelters are not just for abused women. We have shelters for the working poor, for women in financial crisis, as transitional living places while applications for various funds, housing are being processed.

The thought is that the OP's hubby needs a wake up call to get the crew out of his house. Perhaps his wife leaving for a while might be it. I can't see her going to her parents home, it's the same as people moving into her home. She has no money of her own to support herself or to offer to her parents.

Neither the OP nor her husband seem to have the inclination to tell the pack of relatives to leave. Her leaving may be a way to twist his arm to do the deed. There needs to be some sort of actual action taken
to move this situation along. Venting about it and doing for people what they could be doing for themselves is not going to work.

[JanND]

Originally Posted by willow wind

In my state shelters are not just for abused women. We have shelters for the working poor, for women in financial crisis, as transitional living places while applications for various funds, housing are being processed.

The thought is that the OP's hubby needs a wake up call to get the crew out of his house. Perhaps his wife leaving for a while might be it. I can't see her going to her parents home, it's the same as people moving into her home. She has no money of her own to support herself or to offer to her parents.

Neither the OP nor her husband seem to have the inclination to tell the pack of relatives to leave. Her leaving may be a way to twist his arm to do the deed. There needs to be some sort of actual action taken
to move this situation along. Venting about it and doing for people what they could be doing for themselves is not going to work.

Clearly shelters in your state work differently than mine. If a woman tried to leave her husband, simply because she didn't like relatives living there, first she would be denied, as she doesn't have need.....she has a home.

But, the real issue is, if the shelters in her state offer opportunities such as you've described, than all those free loading relatives need to be informed.....and driven there. OP, good luck with this tough situation.

[cpg35223]

"No" is the most powerful word in the English language. There is an immense amount of difference between helping family and letting them walk all over you.