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Old 08-15-2014, 02:24 PM
 
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So I am 20 and I never really made any friends where I was from in community college. I plan on going to Community college in Nevada sometimes later and I would like to know how do you make friends there? most of the people there that I have noticed were too pre occupied with their own schedule or have already made friends and don't really want to talk to me very much. I would like to know what did you do to make friends there?
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Old 08-15-2014, 02:58 PM
 
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I didn't attend community college, so my experience making friends in college really won't be helpful. We lived in the dorms together and involved in the same extracurriculars.
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Old 08-15-2014, 02:59 PM
 
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I was in my 40's when I went to college and I sat in class, participated, talked to my classmates who were basically the same age as my children, joined them for lunch or they joined me, worked on homework together at the library, chatted, laughed, complained, etc.
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Old 08-15-2014, 03:17 PM
 
Location: Lebanon, OH
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When I was in college many years ago I lived in a dorm and we hung out in the study lounge a lot and my room mates and I used to keep our door open and it was a really good way to get to know everyone on our floor. I was also in a fraternity and we were running the bars a lot but this was before the drinking age was raised to 21.
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Old 08-15-2014, 03:31 PM
 
Location: Des Moines Metro
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I would like to know what did you do to make friends there?
- Join at least two activities of your choice - don't overload yourself! But let's say that there are pickup volleyball games in the gym on Tues & Thurs evenings from 7:00 - 8:00 and you love playing volleyball. Go to those and then maybe find a weekend activity that meets for a few hours on Saturday or Sunday afternoon. Go to that, as well.

- You will most likely run into like-minded people in your class. Say something like, "That was a really could point you made about X. Could we go have coffee in the student union and discuss it further? I'll buy." Try to do that with different people several times a week. Be sincere! You wouldn't have to use that exact phrase. And you can ask either men or women for coffee. The point is to get to know more about people. Some will be nice but not really your type. That's okay! Just keep chatting with people until you build a small social circle.

These are just two ideas! The main thing is not to wait for invitations. Get out there and do things.

It's a little harder in community colleges because there are more working adults who are hurrying off to jobs, but keep in mind that you are all in the same boat and even busy people can find time for a cuppa with friends.

And if you get a few "Sorry, no . . . no time" . . . keep asking. It may take a few days.
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Old 08-15-2014, 06:34 PM
 
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You may join clubs of interest or through curiosity.
Many classes should involve group projects and research.

I played lacrosse thus had pockets of really good buddies from the team and our audience's various so friendships elapsed.
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Old 08-15-2014, 07:21 PM
 
Location: Gotham
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I'm in community college now. I'm still trying to figure out that make connections with people.
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Old 08-15-2014, 07:37 PM
 
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I really didn't , depends , if you just click with some people and they stay friends, most people act like they don't need friends.
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Old 08-15-2014, 08:13 PM
 
Location: Queens, NY
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Join a fraternity, if possible. There was a new fraternity formed at my college towards the end of last semester, and I feel like it will be the one of the best decisions I ever made in my life by deciding to join. Each person so far has a good work ethic, fun to be around, and just generally awesome.
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Old 08-15-2014, 08:44 PM
 
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It is really hard to make friendships in community college. It is so transient in nature. If there are any clubs on campus, that is a good way. If you decide to go to a 4 year university afterwards, you will have an easier time making friends especially by joining one of the many clubs that they usually have or if you live on campus. In the meantime, you might want to check out meetup.com and see what clubs are available in your area.
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