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Old 11-06-2014, 08:33 AM
 
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No need to do anything. You tried many times. A true Christian would not do what she is doing to you. I'm sure the passing of her dad has an effect on her but you were also there for you as you told us. Perhaps its something you did or she perceived you did. Anyway, if you really need to then ask her. If she gives you the cold shoulder again tell her you wont contact her anymore and the reason why. Just let it be and focus on yourself. It bothers you because you are a caring person but don't let the caring hurt yourself either.
Being a Christian has nothing to do with grief and sadness! JHC.

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Old 11-09-2014, 03:44 PM
 
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Let it go - it is not you, it is her. I have been told (and have realized it myself a few times) almost always people do what they do not because of something you did or did not do, but for their own internal reasons. You had nothing to do with her decision, it does not reflect in any way badly on you.
Just move on and find another friend. Good luck!
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Old 11-09-2014, 04:24 PM
 
Location: las vegas
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It does seem like she's being rude. But if she doesn't try talking to you, or trying to atleast hold a tiny conversation just move on. I'm sure losing a parent completely changes a person, with a new boyfriend, and I'm sure a typical busy college student she probably has a lot on her plate. Just move on stop putting so much effort on someone that isn't doing the same for you.
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Old 11-09-2014, 05:00 PM
 
Location: Greenbelt, MD
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I offered myself to her. Going to get lunch, inviting her to church, and even joining her for church. I wrote on her wall Facebook wall a few times. I tried to be there for her but I did not want to suffocate her. She had a lot of girlfriends by her side in all this.
Can't you take a hint?

Let it go. She has a new group of friends and has told you in a roundabout way trying not to hurt your feelings you are not part of her life anymore. Move on and quit bothering her.

I lost my first GF to religion. I can't relate but whatever. Stuff happens and people do change.
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Old 11-10-2014, 11:45 AM
 
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Can't you take a hint?

Let it go. She has a new group of friends and has told you in a roundabout way trying not to hurt your feelings you are not part of her life anymore. Move on and quit bothering her.

I lost my first GF to religion. I can't relate but whatever. Stuff happens and people do change.
I am not bothering anybody. When she first started acting distant, I stopped trying to to talk to her. I let her be. I tried again a few months later and I got all this from her. I have been very respectful of her space.
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