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I can't live like this anymore. My dad tries to control us, he goes to bed at 10:30 every night and tries and gets us all to goto bed, so because the computer is next to his room we have to turn it off. He starts these ridiculous rules all the time like turning off lights after we leave room, closing the kitchen door, clicking lights on and off until they come on and so on.
He just started another new rule which is that we can't use the toaster beneath the cupboard. :roll eyes: When I am in the shower he will go upstairs and turn off the water heater and then about 5 minuets later start nagging me like heavens to get out, then he will turn the stove on until we are all sweltering when its 11c outside. He's always whining about bills but to me I just think 'well if you can't afford this house then sell it', the house is 3,500 feet which is quite big for UK so its very expensive to run but thats not my fault.
I don't think I can cope with this nonsense. Its the fact that he keeps making us do what he wants, its all about him and nothing else matters. He's very childish and if he doesn't get his way then it makes a big tantrum like a child. He has a clapped out car and keeps using my mums Audi to goto church and if he doesn't get that he makes a big tantrum then aswell, we used to have an expensive car but he sold it 'because if we've got one we don't need another' a yeah so you can just use of someone else's facility that they worked for.
On the other end I have issues with him telling people what I say, I always say to him that I don't want him to tell the people what i'm saying and then the next moment i'm sitting in their house and he just sinks me and tells them exactly what I said. There seems to be a lot of snitching in his family, I added them all on Facebook and they snitch on me ringing him up telling him what I write and watching my every move. So now i've added them all to private. Its annoying that I can't even go on Facebook and write whatever I want without my OWN relatives snitching on me.
Also me and my mum would love more holidays. He had plenty of money for holidays but he spent it all (on him) again on a plane that no one is going to use, we would've got some amazing holidays out of them money but instead now we are being told we can't go this and this place because of his stupid plane.
Ugh, someone please help me with this control freak!!
So move out. That's what you get when you live under someone else's roof.
If u wanna go on a holiday, get your own money and go. ...
Move out. Your Dad sounds a bit cheap and annoying, but nothing that is that out there that I'd consider it abuse, just annoying, so u either just suck it up and deal with it, or u get a job, save ur money, move out and go on holiday all you want, sister.
Unlike the others, I sympathize a (tiny) bit. Many parents like having their adult kids around so they can treat them like children indefinitely. The same parents are usually the ones who were obsessed with "house rules" instead of homework when the kids were kids. That said, the only real solution is to move out. Dads aren't known for changing their personality.
You sound a bit like my kids did in their teens, they had so many better ideas of how my household should be run. They kept trying to make it into a democracy when in reality it is a monarchy and I am the queen, since I earn the paycheck.
They now are college graduates and married with their own households and continually express amazement at how hard the job is.
I would recommend that you take all your pent up energy that you are directing toward your Dad and read a bio of Ghandi or someone great like that and learn how your attitude influences how you perceive everything. I think you'll feel much calmer toward your Dad. And your life will become more rewarding and content. Good Luck!
Get a job and move out. It's up to your dad and mom to decide how to spend their money. You don't get a say in it.
This. It's a cold, cruel world out there. Living with rules at home is harder than working your behind off for a jerk of a boss and paying endless bills, believe me. Be grateful that your parents care enough about you to allow you to live with them and set some limits.
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On second thought... Move out!
