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I was "unfriended" in real life and never found out why.
My best friend in college and I spent a lot of time together, were in each other's wedding parties and visited each other several times when we lived in different states. This went on for about fifteen years. Then she called and said that she, and her preschool daughter, wanted to visit for a specific week one summer. She called only two or three weeks in advance. Normally, it would not have been a problem but we were almost finished building a house & moving out of our old place right in the middle of her proposed visit.
I politely explained that we were moving and suggested that she visit another time. She basically hung up on me and never spoke to me again, ever. Never answered my phone calls or letters, never explained why she "cut me off", nothing.
The only thing that I could figure out was that there must of been some special reason why she had to visit me that week, but she never explained that to me.
Occasionally, I still wonder about it (such as when I look at photographs from my wedding). How can you be best friends for 15 years and suddenly not speak to the other person again, without even telling them why?
Last edited by germaine2626; 03-16-2015 at 05:50 PM..
Of course. The idea of BFF is or even friends forever is pretty immature. While it might happen for some people, it doesn't happen for all.
People mature and/or evolve, as do interests that may have made them friends in the first place. Highschool friends go their separate ways and move on; people get married, have kids, different priorities.
It happens and is a natural thing.
I think some people worry too much about number of FL friends rather than quality of friends.
Yes. The one that bothered me the most was a close friend who just suddenly stopped calling, then left me out of a couple major events in her life. I found out later it was over something stupid. I'm better off without her. I just wish I'd figured that out before I had her in my wedding.
yes, i've been unfriended on facebook. it was after I posted my "liberal" view on something. It hurt me to be unfriended. Took a while to get over it. But then I forgot about it. I'm not on Facebook anymore.
Yes, I've also been unfriended in real life as well. That hurts too. I think what someone else said that BFF's and lifelong friends may happen for some people, but not all. Certainly not me.
I go through periods of having a few friends to not having anyone that I would really call close. I have mostly aquaintences now. Nobody that I can call anytime to talk about things.
So, to answer your question. Yes to both FB and real life. It happens. Let people go and move on. If they don't want to be in your life, then you are better off without them.
On FB, yes. It's funny because I only find out when I see people tagged in pictures that I was knew I was friends with at one point and thought I still was. When I go to check on who was tagged, the little box pops up with the person's name and indicates whether they are still your friends. People have unfriended me (including this person) because they don't like my politics. The funny thing is that I'm always respectful and constructive with my postings, but that is still too much for some :shrug: I'd lie if I stated that it didn't disappoint me at all (after all, some of these people are individuals that I thought I was cool with, and their unfriending me is a major indication that they don't care about knowing about what I am doing in life, etc.). Still, its not something that I dwell on at all.
The only people I've unfriended/blocked myself were two classmates from college who just had the nastiest attitudes with me over foolishness; I didn't want to be bothered with them and what they were/are up to in life doesn't interest me.
I'm not on Facebook anymore, but back in high school some girl unfriended me. I don't officially know why, but I can probably guess why. She was really rude to some of my friends and I wasn't having it.
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