would you rather ? of day. Spend time around someone who is socially awkward or one that has unnecessary drama (conversation, appropriate)
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I'm already socially awkward, so I wouldn't have a problem spending time with someone else who is. I don't think I could take the stress of someone who likes drama for no reason. I'd rather have someone I can relate to.
Of course when the question is phrased in terms of "do you like to spend time with people who have a lot of drama in their lives?" people will say No. But in reality a lot of people choose to have people like this in their lives. Especially if these people are attractive, outspoken, and charismatic.
If you rephrased the original question like this, you'd get totally different responses:
Would you rather spend time with someone who is shy or socially awkward, perhaps somewhat uncool, who doesn't socialize much, or someone who is exciting, entertaining, spontaneous, who is involved with lots of interesting people and has a magnetic personality?
That's why the drama-prone tend to have a lot of friends and/or people they are involved with. Many people see the first person as "boring" and the second person as "fun and interesting." People who thrive on drama have developed over the years the ability to be "magnetic" and draw lots of people in.
Interesting replies seeing as how drama filled people seem to generally have a lot of friends while socially awkward people do not
I think this is an interesting point. I suspect that drama queens have a little charisma, and that tends to draw people, at least for a while. I would hazard a guess that DQs have a higher friend turnover, and that less flashy, or awkward people might have fewer, but more steadfast friends.
Of course this is based on generalizations. We can't really know that DQs have more friends that socially awkward people do. Some DQs are not narcissistic--just dramatic. And some socially awkward people are not benign personalities, but toxic people. So, we are only generalizing what who we would want to spend time with. Perhaps, the DQ is better in a social setting; perhaps the socially awkward person is better one on one. But really, the two types aren't direct opposites. And most people are probably a mix of several "types."
The socially awkward people I know see it as a strength -- and associate with other socially awkward people, mostly through hobbies like ham radio, square dancing, model trains, scuba diving...
The least socially awkward/most comfortable-in-his-skin friend we have still has a bit of that SA-ness. But he's very involved in his church and because of that, we joke, he knows about half the people in town.
The DQs I've known burn through a lot of friends. And word gets around.
I don't like people who have/create/live for unnecessary drama in my life as a rule, but I have someone at my work who is so socially awkward that it is almost physically uncomfortable to be in a room with them. Sometimes people forget that socially awkward doesn't equal shyness/quietness alone.
In general I would lean towards the socially awkward one but it really depends on the amount of time that would have to be spent with the person and the extent of their social awkwardness or drama.
I live in a no drama zone. Everyone who knows me knows that. If I meet someone who is constantly involved in mindless drama ESPECIALLY on Facebook or some other stupid social media, I am gone.
Drama people can be fun and lively. They are ready to jump up and go somewhere interesting. It's possible to hang out with them ocasionally and refuse to get snared up in the drama.
I stay away from drama people if they do things that are dangerous or if they are psychic vampires.
Socially awkward people can be fine, too. I've got no problem with quiet people. I don't want to hang out with people who are so socially awkward that they embarrass me or get me arrested.
Socially awkward people are more nice and laid back. I hate drama filled people.
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