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Add me to the club! I have 2 awesome nieces though and 6 great-nephews and nieces, and they are enough...I am very nice to my nieces and already planning for a granny pod in one of their back yards one day!
Never married and no kids. However I have a single Mother sharing my home and she has a 14 month old little guy. He adds so much pleasure to my existence. I hope his Mommy can get her act together and find her soul mate soon but in the meantime I hope I can see him catch his first fish, learn how to shoot a bow & arrow, ride his first bike and take him on his first hunting trip.
That is absolutely awesome that you get to experience this. I'm envious.
There's no guarantee that your kids would take care of you if/when you got sick. There are plenty parents out here with kids who would never take care of them. And some have kids they'd never want to take care of them LOL. Personally, I'd rather hire a nurse than put up with my grumpy, impatient daughter - IF she'd even be willing to take care of me. There are plenty of us parents out here who raised spoiled brats.
Depending on your income or insurance, you could probably get in home health care. I'm just saying, having kids is no guarantee to having loving care-givers if/when you need them.
Like anything there is no once size fits all. Just because we are older and never married I'm sure our circumstances are pretty varied. In addition to not having married or children I have very little family. So I start to worry about what would happen if I had a severe injury or health crises. Stuff like that.
You can add me to the list. I realized at some point I would not want to raise children and though I dated and had relationships, I realized that marriage would not be my thing, either. Though I appreciate companionship or togetherness, I enjoy time alone, being independent and feeling more relaxation and peacefulness on my own (having pets over the years).
I have thought it would be best having a relationship with someone who is similar, maintaining his own place and getting together spontaneously or otherwise, valuing each other, but respecting the need for own time (not that he would be a "player", either). I suppose it helps that I have remained close (non romantically) with someone I was once involved / lived with years ago.. living nearby and talking to or seeing each other regularly (who also chose remaining alone).
I am having the same concerns, though. I should have surgery on one knee, yet I am worried about recovery time - having a cat and needing to maintain things. I have few family members also and don't know how much help there may be. I guess I might qualify for home health care.. but..
You can add me to the list. I suppose it helps that I have remained close (non romantically) with someone I was once involved / lived with years ago.. living nearby and talking to or seeing each other regularly (who also chose remaining alone).
I am having the same concerns, though. I should have surgery on one knee, yet I am worried about recovery time - having a cat and needing to maintain things. I have few family members also and don't know how much help there may be. I guess I might qualify for home health care.. but..
I'm glad you have that person. I think that's great. If I had one or two committed friends that we could watch out for each other that would be a boon.
As for surgery, I recently had something not too major but I wasn't sure how I'd do. I was pretty worried about it. One day driving to my apt I noticed a sign about some sort of health care thing. So I pulled in. They hire average people, no special training, do a drug screening and hire them out to people for running errands, light cleaning, post surgery help. I can't even remember how much it was, 25 an hour? Less? They might have had a 2 hour minimum. So I signed up to have someone come once a day for the first 5 days. As it turned out I didn't really need them past the first day of dressing changes and one run to get a prescription (couldn't drive). But it was nice to have them run the vacuum, pick up fresh fruit and make sure I was alive
You can add me to the list. I realized at some point I would not want to raise children and though I dated and had relationships, I realized that marriage would not be my thing, either. Though I appreciate companionship or togetherness, I enjoy time alone, being independent and feeling more relaxation and peacefulness on my own (having pets over the years).
I'm 50, married twice. I had a stepdaughter in the first marriage, she was 3 when we met and we were only together a few years. I've been with someone 4 years now and he has no desire to get married, and I'm fine with that.
And I'll say it - I don't like kids much at all. There was a brief moment in time when I assumed I would have them. After all, being brought up Catholic kind of put that in your head. I should thank my first husband for pushing it out of my head completely, even though I was already headed in that direction. He was so useless around the house/yard and worse with his own kid that I couldn't ever having kids with him.
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I have thought it would be best having a relationship with someone who is similar, maintaining his own place and getting together spontaneously or otherwise, valuing each other, but respecting the need for own time (not that he would be a "player", either). I suppose it helps that I have remained close (non romantically) with someone I was once involved / lived with years ago.. living nearby and talking to or seeing each other regularly (who also chose remaining alone).
I've had those same thoughts, especially after my second divorce. I actually feel that's pretty healthy. Unfortunately the guy I was seeing post-divorce was crazy insecure and Would. Not. Leave. Me. Alone. Even after agreeing that we should share time at each others places - INCLUDING a couple of alone nights a week. Well, he'd agree and then say "after tonight". Every. Night.
My current bf is so sane I sometimes think I am dreaming. He has his own place, but he does sleep here every night. We have our own hobbies and interests, and there are never any issues when one of us wants to do something different. I've gone on two vacations alone and he's stayed back to watch the pets. The last time, he took a vacation the same week I was gone and spent it working on his own house. It does sound odd to people I'm sure, but it works very well for us.
I had surgery on my thumb last year, very minor and was appalled they required me to have someone drive me to and from and even want them to stay with me for 24 hours after (I didn't do that). So yes, things like that have weighed on my mind since then, especially as I want to move to a more rural location.
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