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Because people turn into buttholes when they have kids, that's why. There's nothing wrong with how you are feeling. Breeders are lame, OP!! Just drop them.
Yeah. I am the same. Don't have kids. Don't want kids. Don't have any real interest in kids.
My brother and his girlfriend are expecting. I joke about baby stuff. But I am not too excited about the baby itself. No ill will. Just no interest either. So I won't be holding, snuggling, or babysitting. I'll probably be a distant aunt. Send money and cards on b-day + Xmas. I am not even too close with my brother. We just don't have much in common.
But in your case, it's mainly as you said. been there, done that. And even with some parents, they just care about their kids. They don't have interest in kids in general.
So it's like that with tons of things. Like someone who's been married for 20 years may roll their eyes at the cloud nine newly-weds who haven't even really started yet, and gush about how wonderful everything is. Sex everyday, and no fights (yet/). So it's easy for someone to be excited about new things. But it will wear off. lol
As Debra said about her friend's baby shower in Everybody Loves Raymond
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It's their 1st baby. They're still excited.
She has 3 kids.
Just with kids, seems you may get the most grief there where people get offended that not everyone is gonna care about and gush over their babies.
I regard babies and children as important and worthy of consideration, but many new parents look upon their children as a combination of entertainment hobby and a lottery fortune and expect others to have an appropriate reaction to the endlessly fascinating miracle they produced.
This usually wears off when the kid turns 13 and gets spraypaint on the porch or permanently dyes the bathtub fluorescent pink.
I'll probably be a distant aunt. Send money and cards on b-day + Xmas.
Do you not at all find it a tad harsh that you're already proclaiming to be a "distant aunt"? It's your choice, but sounds a little koo-koo. Although, they will probably be happy you are a distant aunt, as children typically don't grow fond of relatives who reject them for no apparent reason. My guess is they will careless about the spam you send them on bday and Christmas.
..or, ya know, could always try to grow an ounce of a heart.
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Do you not at all find it a tad harsh that you're already proclaiming to be a "distant aunt"? It's your choice, but sounds a little koo-koo. Although, they will probably be happy you are a distant aunt, as children typically don't grow fond of relatives who reject them for no apparent reason. My guess is they will careless about the spam you send them on bday and Christmas.
..or, ya know, could always try to grow an ounce of a heart.
Why is that strange to you? Some people just don't have parenting or even relatively instincts of any kind in them. Hell I've never met any of my cousins kids.
Why is that strange to you? Some people just don't have parenting or even relatively instincts of any kind in them. Hell I've never met any of my cousins kids.
Even animals have instincts, but OK..
There is a significant difference between what you are talking about and a person premeditating a "distant" relationship. If lack of instincts were the case then why would the poster think to send bday and Christmas cards?
Here lately I am just not interested in other people babies and young kids. I use to make over them and take an interest, but any more I am like, "yup it is a baby on Santa's lap, how about this weather?"
I think it is just because I am done with that chapter of my life and have been there and done that years ago. Many of my friends are just now having babies and I have been doing the parenting thing for almost two decades. Seen it all, survived the sleepless nights, and never want to experience poopy diapers and accidents ever again... I am done, done, done...
A friend of mine had a baby 6 months ago and I am embarrassed to say I have not even gone to meet the child.
And it is not that I am insensitive, because that is not the case. I will cry when I hear a story about a child with cancer or some similar tragedy. But normal kid stuff, like seeing Santa pictures from every single friend? No thank you.
Can anyone else relate?
I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I wasn't interested in most people's kids before I had a kid. And some days I'm so exhausted with my own that I'm not interested in their kids now either, but only because all I am interested in at that moment is figuring out a way to get a nap. lol I love kids, but they are exhausting. And some days, they're not that interesting when they're not your own or someone's you love.
I've never changed a diaper and I feel the same way. Most people have wiring in their brain that says 'the baby is cute' or 'the child is cute.' I don't. The baby begins as a random spewer of loud noises and rank substances. Then it adds the ability to damage itself and others if not watched every second. At some point, when it can have conversations, it begins to interest me--if it is willing to have conversations. Until then, they all look the same, and most of them are butt-ugly. And if they reach the conversation age, but pull the whole shy avoidance thing, they do not interest me then either.
It happens a lot on FB, where parents think that the baby is fascinating, the child is fascinating, the mess is fascinating, all of it is fascinating. It is fascinating to the parents. Everyone else chimes in, except maybe 10% of the people who are authentic gluttons for punishment, out of obligation. They are socially required to say that the child is adorable, and they value the adult friendship, thus it won't hurt to tell their pal Haighleah that little Cambelle--whose head looks like a hairy tumor topped with a pink bow, quite frankly--is just the cutest thing.
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