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Or I should say this evening...
Got some clothes ready, going out tonight to "meet and mingle" as I had mentioned in a previous thread. I'm in a transition period, so to speak, in that I'm ditching those "friends" who have nothing better than to sit at home and wallow in self-pity! Look, we all have problems, right? Well, at least for a few hours I intend to just get the hell out of my house, meet, greet, socialize, and forget about my troubles! I may or may not meet somebody special, but I have a degree in Marketing and the gift of gab. The hardest asset to sell is yourself! I'm a little nervous, of course, but at my age it's well past the time to conquer the fear!
Or I should say this evening...
Got some clothes ready, going out tonight to "meet and mingle" as I had mentioned in a previous thread. I'm in a transition period, so to speak, in that I'm ditching those "friends" who have nothing better than to sit at home and wallow in self-pity! Look, we all have problems, right? Well, at least for a few hours I intend to just get the hell out of my house, meet, greet, socialize, and forget about my troubles! I may or may not meet somebody special, but I have a degree in Marketing and the gift of gab. The hardest asset to sell is yourself! I'm a little nervous, of course, but at my age it's well past the time to conquer the fear!
Good luck! As the other person said, don't overthink it or you'll burden the entire experience with too many expectations and concerns. Though unlike the other poster, I think that if this is a start of a new routine for you, a new attitude, a new lifestyle, then it IS sort of a big deal. Your goal though should perhaps be to explore new experiences, and to make new friends, and this may need to involve less "gab" and less "selling yourself," and more listening and observation - and just chilling.
Just get dressed in some spiffy clothes, hang out with some people, and live in the moment! Hope you have a great time!
Yes. Think of going to the event as a healthy thing to do, and think of how conquering your fear this one time will help you to do the same in the future and go to more events. It's not (or shouldn't be) about this one particular gathering.
I look at it as the opening salvo for future gatherings and events. It's the first initial step that's the hardest, but hey, I'm not jumping out of a plane!
Yes, think of this as the first step of a new habit, not an end unto itself. I always tell depressed and/or lonely people they should set a goal for going out of their houses for some purpose/social appointment at least three times a week. Have the next things planned before the one you're going to next, so if one is a dud it doesn't stop the whole train.
When you're meeting new people, ask them what kind of hobbies or interests they have that occupy their downtime constructively. You can get some ideas of other things to do. Take a class, volunteer someplace where the work interests you, join some kind of exercise program (doesn't have to be extreme, it can be for stretching, balance, etc.).
I hope you have a great time tonight but even if you don't, congratulate yourself for making the effort. Let us know how it went.
I agree with Jukesgirl and want to add - when making new friendships, don't look for what's in it for you. Look for opportunities to give, not take. When you switch your mindset from YOUR comfort and fun to the other person's, it makes a huge and very positive difference in the interactions and quality of the new relationships.
Thanks everybody!
As I see it, I have a lot to offer; no one owes me anything! I may sound martyr-ish for putting it that way, but as Ms. Aragon just stated, seeking opportunities to give. Who knows? I might just run into someone I could mentor and help lead the way.
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