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Lol kittycat40, it is so difficult to take you seriously anymore.
That being said, I think your ''friend'' just doesn't want do anything with you, and instead of being rude she just said what seems a good excuse to dismiss you without any further explanations. Let it go kitty, let it go.
I don't know the OP but I really hate the "going through something" business. Either don't bring it up at all or be prepared to share enough detail if you have to talk about things to not be "terribly mysterious" and create some understanding. Frankly I prefer the former unless I'm pretty close to someone. Either share or not but the half-arsed "going through something" is just plain aggravating and often a childish way of excusing bad behavior in my experience.
It either means "I'm going through something and I am not close enough to you to share what it is" or "I need an excuse to not talk to you or hang out with you." No, no one has ever said that to me because I know how to take a hint.
Okay I get what is going on. OP you have to understand when someone else is telling you to "come no closer". Like I responded in my PM, you are being disappointed and the natural and healthy way to respond to the situation is to remain at a distance for your own good as well as the other person involved. I'm sorry things haven't and won't work out to your satisfaction but it just won't. It is what it is. Time to cut your losses and move on. Easier said than done but it is an imperative.
It means: I have something personal in my life that I need to focus on and attend to and I do not need or want to share and discuss it with you or anybody else. Please honor my privacy, leave me alone, and get out of my face.
I have said it, meant it, not lied about it. If someone has not heeded my request, they have been duly dealt with and are not considered a close friend to me. Friends understand when someone needs space without needing an explanation - and are mature enough to just be there when you need them.
If you were going through something did it cause you to treat some people badly?
I have told people that. Usually it was a lie, just a way to let them know that I wanted them to stop contacting me. Sometimes it's difficult to tell someone the truth (like, "Leave me alone. I don't want your friendship.") because it's awkward and embarrassing, and you never know what the person's reaction will be. It can be a very volatile situation.
That said, it has also been the absolute truth on occasion--a break-up, depression, anxiety, drug/alcohol abuse/recovery, death in the family, etc.
I have treated people badly at times. Nobody's perfect.
Could you elaborate? Are you going through a similar situation?
Have you ever told someone that you were "GOING THROUGH SOMETHING"?
Yes.
And when he ignored everything I said and still wouldn't leave me alone, I ran over him with my car.
Huh. I guess I really was "GOING THROUGH SOMETHING"!
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