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I gave my neighbors lemons off my new trees, with a card that said we really appreciated having great neighbors. They loved it! One if them just moved in and the other has been there 15 years. It is never the wrong thing to do. When I was a kid we gave our meat bones to the neighbors for their dogs. It is never wrong to share, even if you can't spend time with them!
I'd go for gift certificate, or some baked goods done by a professional. Someone bringing me baked goods from their home does not get eaten...not their fault, I've just seen how unsanitary far too many people are.
I take homemade baked goods to the neighbors pretty often and they'll eat them while we're standing there talking. I used to send baked goods to my kids' teachers and they'd talk about the flavors I used, so I know they ate them. I also send stuff to work with my husband and it gets gobbled up. A lot of people actually like the idea of homemade stuff, especially people who don't bake.
Truthfully, it was kind of her to save you trouble and point out the problem, but a sincere thank you note in the mailbox is good enough. The idea that you need to go out of your way to buy someone a gift for being a decent neighbor is a bit much. If you'd really like to do something extra, you could address it in the thank you note, offering to take her out for lunch sometime..You said she keeps to herself, If you want to get to know her better this would be a good way to start a dialogue.
Truthfully, it was kind of her to save you trouble and point out the problem, but a sincere thank you note in the mailbox is good enough. The idea that you need to go out of your way to buy someone a gift for being a decent neighbor is a bit much. If you'd really like to do something extra, you could address it in the thank you note, offering to take her out for lunch sometime..You said she keeps to herself, If you want to get to know her better this would be a good way to start a dialogue.
Why would that be above & beyond? Being a friend makes a friend. I think it's a marvelous idea to reward a good deed with a good deed.
I take homemade baked goods to the neighbors pretty often and they'll eat them while we're standing there talking. I used to send baked goods to my kids' teachers and they'd talk about the flavors I used, so I know they ate them. I also send stuff to work with my husband and it gets gobbled up. A lot of people actually like the idea of homemade stuff, especially people who don't bake.
On the flip side, there are a lot of people who don't or cannot eat baked goods for various reasons. Especially, since so many people start a weight loss program as a new year's resolution. I would not assume that baked goods are a safe choice. Unless I'm certain it's something they'd enjoy, I'd go with a "safe" something such as a gift card, flowers, or a return kindness such as shoveling snow.
I agree. Never thought in those lines. Another thing I did for my neighbors is to watch their little girl while the mom quickly ran to the store or wanted to take a shower. How well I remembered those days! The hassle of bundling up a little one, when you'd forgotten to get something at the store & also trying to take a shower while your little one was sleeping. That was probably more helpful than baked goods.
I take homemade baked goods to the neighbors pretty often and they'll eat them while we're standing there talking. I used to send baked goods to my kids' teachers and they'd talk about the flavors I used, so I know they ate them. I also send stuff to work with my husband and it gets gobbled up. A lot of people actually like the idea of homemade stuff, especially people who don't bake.
I'm another who doesn't think baked goods are a good idea. As mentioned, possible dietary restrictions, plus if she's alone she may prefer some help around the yard.
At this point, I think a nice note if you must but I'd just wait until an opportunity to help her in some way would be more neighborly and less formal.
Helping a neighbor isn't necessarily a quid pro quo thing. It's just someone helping when it's needed or wanted.
I cant believe there is a thread about this....people used to just sort of, know what to do to say Thank You.
Sad times
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