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You kids watch too much TV. Everything has to be dramatic or creative or super-romantic. If you want to be creative and old-fashioned at the same time, give her a card at bowling. Or buy her a milkshake with a little flag in it that pops the question. Or take her to a dessert place afterwards, and have a pre-ordered cake delivered to the table that says, "Will you go to Prom with me?"
But remember the guys who do a big dramatic marriage proposal in public, like in the middle of a crowded restaurant, only to get turned down in front of a roomful of strangers. The more you go out on a limb, the farther you have to go if you crash.
You're not asking her to marry you. It's just a school dance. Sheesh.
Yes, all of this. The "promposal" thing has gotten idiotic. Guys everywhere will applaud if you manage to get a date without jumping through hoops. Just ask.
I want to ask a good friend to prom, but I would rather ask the old-fashioned way than the creative way, because I am a more personal type. I plan to ask her when we are bowling, because that is what we always do with our friends. However, I feel like if I ask her the old-fashioned way at bowling, she'd think to herself, "Why couldn't he ask me on the scoreboard or do something else creative?" I feel like she might think it's lazy for me to ask the old-fashioned way. I would say something personal, like, "There's been something I've been wanting to ask you for a while. Will you go to prom with me?" Do you girls think the old-fashioned way is a bad way to ask someone to prom and can't compare to a creative way? Or am I okay asking this way?
I feel for you -- I think it's an insane amount of pressure for a teenage guy to turn an invitation to a frickin' dance into a huge swoon-worthy production. I mean -- it's not an engagement. It's not marriage. It's just a DANCE.
Rebel! Don't fall for it! If she can't appreciate a heart-felt and sincere invitation, it's her loss. I mean, it's not as though she's going to be surprised when you ask her, is she?
Although, I'd probably wait until you two were alone to ask her, instead of with a group of friends. And no texting the question!
I feel for you -- I think it's an insane amount of pressure for a teenage guy to turn an invitation to a frickin' dance into a huge swoon-worthy production. I mean -- it's not an engagement. It's not marriage. It's just a DANCE.
Rebel! Don't fall for it! If she can't appreciate a heart-felt and sincere invitation, it's her loss. I mean, it's not as though she's going to be surprised when you ask her, is she?
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Yes, this.
0P, here is a good life lesson for you to learn early:
A girl who needs to have you do a big production about something like this is not worth your time either as a friend or in a romantic relationship. Women (or just people in general) who make you jump through hoops for them are best avoided. Your life will be much easier and happier if you learn that these are not quality people and should be avoided whenever possible.
I feel for you -- I think it's an insane amount of pressure for a teenage guy to turn an invitation to a frickin' dance into a huge swoon-worthy production. I mean -- it's not an engagement. It's not marriage. It's just a DANCE.
Rebel! Don't fall for it! If she can't appreciate a heart-felt and sincere invitation, it's her loss. I mean, it's not as though she's going to be surprised when you ask her, is she?
Although, I'd probably wait until you two were alone to ask her, instead of with a group of friends. And no texting the question!
We are never alone, always with other friends. Would it be better to pull her aside and ask her or ask her over the phone?
OP, make sure your school allows for college-aged prom dates before you ask. Some school districts put age limits on prom dates. (I'm glad that didn't happen to me! I took my now-husband to my senior prom. He was 24!)
I agree with the others about the promposals. It's too much of a big deal these days.
Good luck to you, and report back! We want to know how it goes!
Being yourself and asking in a way that you are most comfortable with will put you at ease when the time comes, and she should recognize the genuineness of it. Is this a relationship you want to cultivate? Being honest to who you are can set the tone and expectations for the future.
Do you want this to be romantic or are you just asking her to go as a friend since you want to go to prom and have no one else?
If this is just a friend thing, do NOT do any cutesy romantic junk. Just ask her.
If it is romantic, I have doubts a college girl is going to go gooey over a corsage or whatever... Prom is no longer the big deal it is to high schoolers.
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