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it seems like single moms draw the short straw once again with celebrating Mother's Day. Ugh. And they typically have the hardest parenting job because they do everything without help.
This year my mother decided she wants to do a picnic at her house. My brother and I are to split the cost of crabs. I will cover the half but it is not like I am getting recognized as being a mom, currently raising children. Where is my congratulations? Oh that is right... The same thing as every other day, Pat myself on the back and keep chugging along.
Hopefully when my kids are older I will get the opportunity to celebrate Mother's Day.
I tend to think that the congratulations on Mother's Day (and Father's Day too, for that matter) are supposed to flow uphill; that is, from the children to their parents. Thus, it would fall to you and your brother to celebrate your mother's Mother's Day, and it would be incumbent upon your children to celebrate your Mother's Day.
The implication from your post is that your kids are not doing anything special for you on Mother's Day. I don't know why this is; maybe they're too young, or maybe they can't read a calendar, or maybe they're spoiled brats; I don't know. But none of these things is the fault of your mother.
Nothing is stopping you from celebrating, except your opinion that others are responsible for making the day what you think it should be. Personally, I think it's nothing more than an advertising gimmick, and have always told my kids a kiss and a hug is all I want. I didn't give birth for a Hallmark card, I became a mother because I wanted to be one.
I did love the sweet nursery school type "gifts" and handwritten cards when they were little, but now? No fuss, no foul.
I tend to think that the congratulations on Mother's Day (and Father's Day too, for that matter) are supposed to flow uphill; that is, from the children to their parents. Thus, it would fall to you and your brother to celebrate your mother's Mother's Day, and it would be incumbent upon your children to celebrate your Mother's Day.
The implication from your post is that your kids are not doing anything special for you on Mother's Day. I don't know why this is; maybe they're too young, or maybe they can't read a calendar, or maybe they're spoiled brats; I don't know. But none of these things is the fault of your mother.
My children are young. I think it should be the moms that are actively parenting now that should be rewarded. Not the ones that gave up parenting 25 years ago. Heck I raised my brother.
Well, my mother is dead, so I don't have to worry about it.
BUT, exactly who do you think should be responsible for giving you what you think you deserve for Mother's Day, if your children are too young to give it to you?
Sorry, since you are not my mother, nor are you the mother of my children, I have nothing for you.
Since you apparently were a surrogate mother for your brother, ask him what he is doing for YOU on "Mother's Day".
My children are young. I think it should be the moms that are actively parenting now that should be rewarded. Not the ones that gave up parenting 25 years ago. Heck I raised my brother.
My kids are grown. I no longer "parent" them, but am in an advisory role. And, when asked a helping role. It's cute that you think it's only young kids that call on their Moms when they need em. And only moms of young kids who deserve recognition for their efforts.
My children are young. I think it should be the moms that are actively parenting now that should be rewarded. Not the ones that gave up parenting 25 years ago. Heck I raised my brother.
Your mother didn't cease being your mother when you turned 18. So I see nothing wrong with honoring her on Mother's Day. I also see nothing wrong with honoring you on this day. Maybe your mother is organizing her crab feast as a way to jointly celebrate the mothers in her family, i.e. you and herself. Or maybe she's just a selfish attention-hog who doesn't consider you to be a real mother. If it's the latter, then send the crabs and stay home with your kids, and bask in your disappointment that no one bothered to honor you on your day.
It's just a made up holiday, so that people buy cards and flowers. For example today is National Truffle Day, National Life Insurance Day and National Melanoma Monday.
Did you eat a truffle today?
Did you buy any life insurance or check that yours is up to date?
Did you check yourself or a loved one for any melanomas?
Well, my mother is dead, so I don't have to worry about it.
BUT, exactly who do you think should be responsible for giving you what you think you deserve for Mother's Day, if your children are too young to give it to you?
Sorry, since you are not my mother, nor are you the mother of my children, I have nothing for you.
Well I think the men in my family should be planning and providing the family picnic. Like my father and brother.
it seems like single moms draw the short straw once again with celebrating Mother's Day. Ugh. And they typically have the hardest parenting job because they do everything without help.
This year my mother decided she wants to do a picnic at her house. My brother and I are to split the cost of crabs. I will cover the half but it is not like I am getting recognized as being a mom, currently raising children. Where is my congratulations? Oh that is right... The same thing as every other day, Pat myself on the back and keep chugging along.
Hopefully when my kids are older I will get the opportunity to celebrate Mother's Day.
Since it is usually the father that makes sure that his preschool children remember Mom on Mother's day, perhaps you can mention that to their biological father.
Did you make sure that your preschool children made a card or a gift for their father on Father's Day? Even if he is a jerk to you he is still their father.
Once children are in school usually the teacher makes sure that there is a card and a gift made in class for Mother's Day (not that it really should be the job of the teacher).
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