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Women have more to be concerned about than men do. You can summarise this as "men are afraid women will laugh at them, women are afraid men will kill them".
So they can kill both of them? Another person isn't security.
In most situations, another person is definitely security. A rapist/killer/burglar looking to break into an inhabited home is going to pick the house that has only one person in it, especially if it's a woman, over the house with two people in it nearly every time if they have a choice.
I've never had anything bad happen crime related to me , but I'm another one in the camp of watched too many horror movies and crime dramas so I prefer not to sleep alone and I have more trouble falling asleep if alone. I will say that now having two big loud dogs in the house with me helps my piece of mind and ability to fall asleep tremendously if hubby is gone.
I'm female and have never heard of such a thing. It's not something I think about either. If any of my female friends are like this they've never told me. I love to travel and have met plenty of solo female travelers across the country and around the world.
I never had thought about it until a few weeks ago. Someone I used to work with had posted on Facebook that her Fiance is out of town, so she needs someone to stay with. I was shocked by the amount of responses she got all saying something along the lines of "Yes, come stay with us! I would never dream of letting you stay home by yourself." There is no reason this woman can't stay alone. She is healthy and in her mid 30s, and lives in a very safe area. She also has two elementary age sons, so she wasn't even alone. My dad went on business trips all the time when I was young and my mom managed just fine with being home with two kids.
I could not imagine having to pack up and go sleep at someone's house every time my SO went out of town. We don't have kids, so I actually am home alone. But it just never even crossed my mind to stay somewhere else.
I've lived alone most of my post college life and never gave it a second thought, but then again, I'm a male.
I know a few girls at least that won't sleep alone in a building/apartment if they can avoid it. My Fiance will call her friend to come stay the night if her roommate and I are both out of town. If her roommate is out of town, either I sleep at her place or she stays with me. A colleagues wife is very similar. It seems so strange to me. How common is this? Is this one of those more common things that not growing up with sisters, I never picked up on?
I've lived alone most of my post college life and never gave it a second thought, but then again, I'm a male.
I know a few girls at least that won't sleep alone in a building/apartment if they can avoid it. My Fiance will call her friend to come stay the night if her roommate and I are both out of town. If her roommate is out of town, either I sleep at her place or she stays with me. A colleagues wife is very similar. It seems so strange to me. How common is this? Is this one of those more common things that not growing up with sisters, I never picked up on?
I've known a few women over the years that are this way but not many. Not me, for sure. When I was married I spent at least six months alone every year for ten years while my, then, dh went off for his work. I lived five years, off the grid in the mountains of No. Idaho...alone for months at a time. I did have neighbors close enough that if I fired a shotgun twice they'd be there in a jiffy! I never had to. Now I've been divorced and single for nearly 20 years and like being alone just fine. I'd be a mess if I had to have someone sleep over to keep me company. I've also done a ton of road trips across the country by myself and enjoy that too. Just have to always be aware, vigilant and careful.
In most situations, another person is definitely security. A rapist/killer/burglar looking to break into an inhabited home is going to pick the house that has only one person in it, especially if it's a woman, over the house with two people in it nearly every time if they have a choice.
I've never had anything bad happen crime related to me , but I'm another one in the camp of watched too many horror movies and crime dramas so I prefer not to sleep alone and I have more trouble falling asleep if alone. I will say that now having two big loud dogs in the house with me helps my piece of mind and ability to fall asleep tremendously if hubby is gone.
When I moved into my house a year ago I laughed because the former owners seemed to be totally paranoid about their safety. There is still an ADT setup...which I don't use but they won't take out...a security camera in one corner of my living room, every window has a lock on the inside so they won't open and it takes FOUR keys to unlock the two front doors into my house. Also four keys to unlock both back doors! And the doors are all heavy duty metal screens and solid steel doors. I really don't worry about my safety at all. I've never seen a house with so many locks! Strange because I actually live in a very safe neighborhood. Oh yeah, and also three really BRIGHT motion activated lights outside. So far the only things that have set them off are neighbors cats or dogs. lol
I too watch too many true crime shows on TV and it creeps me out when it's "the little ol' lady next door" who gets attacked/killed, beings as I'm a "little ol' lady" myself. Especially if it's the 'trusted handyman' who did it!! I am VERY careful who I have around my house doing handyman jobs and such too. Only people who come HIGHLY recommended and considered trustworthy.
I get nervous. Twice I've had someone trying to open the door in case I was dumb enough to leave it unlocked (which I didn't, thankfully), once I caught a prowler outside my bedroom window late at night, and once someone was literally trying to kick the door to enter. This from living in rougher parts of Oakland and San Francisco, but one of these incidents was in an allegedly 'safer' area. I've always lived with roommates until moving in with my husband, so I've honestly never actually lived alone. Additionally, I did have a legitimate stalker not too long ago (one who threatened violence even), and legal measures were necessary to stop it. The fear from that several year long ordeal never completely went away.
So yeah, I do get nervous being home overnight alone, especially for more than a day. I usually keep the lights on all night to make it obvious someone is home, and keep the TV on so I'm less jumpy at strange noises. And I don't sleep very well.
I know, I know...I'm a wimp and need to man up. But easier said than done.
Last edited by ohhwanderlust; 05-04-2016 at 10:47 PM..
I'm a female and have never been like that. Sometimes we lived in places that felt less than safe and my husband worked overnight, but I didn't need anyone else to stay with me.
Same here. Sounds to me like the women you refer to are either immature or are trying to play helpless to appear more attractive to men who like the he-man role.
I never had thought about it until a few weeks ago. Someone I used to work with had posted on Facebook that her Fiance is out of town, so she needs someone to stay with. I was shocked by the amount of responses she got all saying something along the lines of "Yes, come stay with us! I would never dream of letting you stay home by yourself." There is no reason this woman can't stay alone. She is healthy and in her mid 30s, and lives in a very safe area. She also has two elementary age sons, so she wasn't even alone. My dad went on business trips all the time when I was young and my mom managed just fine with being home with two kids.
I could not imagine having to pack up and go sleep at someone's house every time my SO went out of town. We don't have kids, so I actually am home alone. But it just never even crossed my mind to stay somewhere else.
Well, I guess once you've announced on Facebook that you're a scared woman home alone, you may as well have rolled out the red carpet for criminals. How could anyone be so dumb! Most normal people practice home safety.
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I am VERY careful who I have around my house doing handyman jobs and such too. Only people who come HIGHLY recommended and considered trustworthy.
