Do you know any people who are the exception to the rule of "Your not the same at 30 as you were at 18?" (present, roommate)

[croftylot24]

The only ones I know are usually the weirdest people; like this guy in HS who was a non conformist. Hated addressing people formally "Sir/Madam/Miss", believed that the majority in society were deluded, wanted to be raised by lesbian parents. All weird. This guy wasn't too smart though. He got pretty poor grades. After I graduated I never saw him again.

15 Years later see him on Facebook and message him asking how he's doing. He tells me he's now working with a conspiracy theorist to do research and write books

As the old adage goes, Growing old is inevitable, growing up is a choice....

[Tracysherm]

I knew someone freshman year of college who was kind of a nerdy guy but I was friends with his roommates, and we tried to help him fit in more, go to parties, have fun, try to talk to girls, etc. He was painfully shy with women, never dated (but wanted to) and was into computer games, Dungeons and Dragons, etc.
Found him on Facebook over 20 years later, he's still single, still nerdy (not in the good way), still into computer games and D&D. Still no hope of getting a date.



I knew a guy in my early 20s. Smart but never finished college. Pot head. Never wore or bought new clothes, but would get clothes out of garbage or in thrift stores. Never paid a bill on time, was always having his utilities turned off until he paid up. Usually drove a beater car, and ended up riding his bike most places. Never held a "real" job but would repair musical instruments when he needed a buck. Played in bands and wanted to be a professional musician.
Now 20+ years later, he's in his late 40s and exactly the same. Still dreaming of his band hitting it big. Buys throw-away cell phones because he can't handle a monthly bill. Gets offered numerous music repair jobs, to the point where he could, if he wanted to, make a very lucrative living. But only takes enough jobs to pay the bills, when he feels like paying his bills. Still a huge pot head.






Had a friend in my 20s. She was artistic, one of those "free spirit" types that I'd never connect with if I met her today, but we go way back. Her dream was to be an actress so she dropped her very promising career to pursuing acting and live in cheap rented rooms of relatives. Fast-forward 20+ years, she's still trying to get acting gigs, but she's now pushing 50 and doesn't seem to see that she won't "make it." Still rents a room from a relative. Works part time crappy jobs instead of the career she trained for because the crappy jobs won't interfere with auditioning. When she does get acting gigs, they are mostly unpaid.




Wow, in typing all this, I guess it's becoming apparent how much I HAVE changed in that time period. Even back then, I was not very similar to these folks, but we still connected. Today, I'm much more choosy, I guess, about who I let in.

[soUlwounD]

My basic values are same since 14.. Animal rights, feminism, hobbies are quite same etc.. More mature yes, but I knew early who I am and what I represent