How do i tell my friends that after living in seattle for over a year that im never moving back to los angles again? (boyfriend, conversation)

[In2itive_1]

Originally Posted by elhelmete

For someone who is supposedly happy in SEA you sure continue to beat the "LA Sux" drum. (PS: the poster has a long history)

OHhhhh....


Just to mention for others, Encino and other vicinities are nice - a bit older, but decent areas, not to be confused with less pleasant areas in all of what is considered Los Angeles. Glad the OP is thrilled to be elsewhere that appeals to him and seems like another good place, but I don't feel he should throw his home town under the bus.

[germaine2626]

Originally Posted by Kibbiekat

This doesn't require a big announcement. If they ask, just say you like it there and don't have plans to move back.

Good point.

[Tzaphkiel]

focus on the positive, and don't speak negatively of elsewhere
just say to your friends "I really like it here" and "I am really happy here so I've decided to stay"

there is no need to to criticize other places, simply wish your friends well

[SOON2BNSURPRISE]

Originally Posted by annonymous0381

I dont own a home anywhere so im free to move around. Im 35 years old and never married. In LA i lived in Encino,CA in my parents house my full life. When i moved to seattle in july 2015 i moved off on my own. Im planning on staying in seattle and even putchasing a condo here.

I see that the spell check is still not working for you.

So you lived at your parents home till you were 34 in Encino, you are 35 now. You are in between jobs. You can't keep a job or is it you job hop every year or so, You hope to buy a condo in Seattle some day. I get it most people are wondering how this all works out for you when most of us have to work and are more than likely deep into our careers already. By the time I was 35 I had been here at the hospital for 3 years. Prior to that I had worked at another place for five years. Before that I had managed a company. By the time I was 35 I had three kids and one on the way. We have 6 now. Most people can not even comprehend living at mom and dads till they were your age and not working a regular job. With you though, in Encino I am betting that you are an only child and that mom and dad "helped" you out your entire life.

[oregonwoodsmoke]

Invite them up for their vacation and offer to show them around. Maybe they will like it well enough to move up, too.

[oregonwoodsmoke]

Originally Posted by annonymous0381

She tried to move into my seattle apartment but i told her no.

So, you didn't lose a girlfriend, you ditched an ex-girlfriend whom you were finished with.

[IonRedline08]

I'm thinking taking out a Billboard on the 10 would suffice

[AKtoWAtoUT]

Have them come visit, they'll understand.

[ryanms3030]

Originally Posted by SOON2BNSURPRISE

I see that the spell check is still not working for you.

So you lived at your parents home till you were 34 in Encino, you are 35 now. You are in between jobs. You can't keep a job or is it you job hop every year or so, You hope to buy a condo in Seattle some day. I get it most people are wondering how this all works out for you when most of us have to work and are more than likely deep into our careers already. By the time I was 35 I had been here at the hospital for 3 years. Prior to that I had worked at another place for five years. Before that I had managed a company. By the time I was 35 I had three kids and one on the way. We have 6 now. Most people can not even comprehend living at mom and dads till they were your age and not working a regular job. With you though, in Encino I am betting that you are an only child and that mom and dad "helped" you out your entire life.

Maybe OP is Asian. Most of the Asians I know in LA live at home forever. It's cultural. I have a friend who is mid 30's, just had a kid he lives at home with wife, kid, his parents and several other extended family members. Another one of my friends is 40 and lives in NJ with his wife, 2 kids and wife's mother. COL is getting super expensive in LA (as I'm sure you know) so it's not abnormal for families to stay under the same roof more these days for longer periods of time or permanently (just as it's the norm in other countries/cultures that many people in LA immigrate from).

I'm 39 and have been on my own since college but I just had my first kid. Having 6 kids is actually way outside the norm these days as most people like myself choose to wait until later in life until they are more stable in career etc.

[Blondebaerde]

Originally Posted by Tzaphkiel

focus on the positive, and don't speak negatively of elsewhere
just say to your friends "I really like it here" and "I am really happy here so I've decided to stay"

there is no need to to criticize other places, simply wish your friends well

I've lived in half dozen places, childhood to current, Sea to Shining Sea in this great nation. There are upsides to each. I don't dwell on the downsides, it impresses no one and pours salt on good memories.

Pals come and go. "I don't care" is a lie, but knowing how to let go is part of being mature, too. Most of us treasure sameness. Embracing a little chaos in a new place can be personally fulfilling, too. “Without change something sleeps inside us, and seldom awakens. The sleeper must awaken.” (Frank Herbert, Dune).