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We were out celebrating my cousin's birthday at a nice restaurant tonight and I noticed a negative vibe from my mom, aunt, and other cousin. Come to find out it was because they didn't want to be there because my cousin never calls any of them or responds to their text messages. So they felt like it was no point in them being there celebrating her birthday. So that's why I was feeling that negative vibe during dinner. So I am mad enough now to see them any of them at all during at the remainder of this year.
I guess I feel like it was a wasted evening because I was looking forward to seeing everyone tonight not get this strange negative vibe with a lot of silence. Part of me wanted to leave and go home because it just felt so awkward all night at dinner. I never felt like that around my family before and just don't feel the need to see them again this year.
Wow, So behaving badly is catching? Seriously, why would you take it upon yourself to get involved in something that isn't your issue.......especially to the point of not wanting to see your Mom and aunts all year? Super childish. IMO
But they know she on facebook and won't contact her there
If she is unable to communicate using anything other than social media, then she is an idiot. Tell your family to ignore her. And you should do the same.
Good grief. Such drama over such piddling nonsense.
While it is probably true that the younger generation (the cousin) needs to step-up her communication, frankly anyone (the mom) who is upset because someone does not respond to her communication of simply sending a "photo of celebrity who just had a birthday" is in the wrong, too.
Over the years I have probably received hundreds of those chain mail type of emails "Send this to ten of your friends and watch the amazing results in your life", etc. etc. and I have never even once responding to any of them. To me, just forwarding an email is not communicating.
However, receiving an email like that may jog my memory, "Hey, I haven't called Jenny in a while so I would call her to chat."
I have written people up for forwarding that kind of crap email thru my systems in the past.
Personally, I'm the kind of person that will sometimes go for weeks and weeks without calling or texting anybody. I feel for the OP and her cousin. Cousin may have only been at her own party out of a sense of obligation. Sounds like a blast.
Why are you angry at your family? They didn't actually "do" anything to you.
Yes, you hit the nail on the head here!
OP, you are not responsible nor able to control or mandate what anyone else feels at any time. So you picked up a vibe. Big deal. I pick up vibes all the time.
You're only responsible for your own behavior. If others don't want to be somewhere you can't do a thing about that. To get mad and then stay mad over something so trivial and not within your control? Pfffftttt. You're looking for drama where drama does not need to be or concern you.
Good grief. A forty year old can't navigate through correspondence with her older relatives? Does everything in life require a guide book now?
OP, I'm thinking you aren't a kid either, but you're acting like one. Acquiesce to the preferred way of communication with your mother and your aunts. Tell your cousin to do the same. This isn't your call, or your fight, and it makes you seem silly to get in a huff over it.
Exactly, they're older than you, and someday they will be gone and you won't have the need to communicate with them.
If they prefer a phone call, pick up the damn phone. Expecting older people to use FB because you use FB as your means of communicating, is selfish and short sighted.
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Originally Posted by germaine2626
I strongly disagree. I have nieces in their 30s and 40s who, I'm pretty sure, are on social media multiple times a day. I am in my 60s and busy caring for a disabled spouse. I am certainly NOT going on social media tocheck on what they are doing or to "have a conversation with them". Either I will call or email them (or horrors, actually write a letter to them), if I want to share some news or they will call me or email me to share their news.
Heck, I am not even friends with my own adult children, DIL and numerous nieces and nephews on social media because I am on there so rarely.
Your situation is a perfect example. You're busy.
Anyone with some manners and who can talk about someone besides themselves(I know that's less and less common) would ask you when is a good time to talk, I want to know how you're doing, what's the best time and method to reach you?
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