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Because of their negative energy I did not enjoy my time like I normally do. It wasn't until I arrived home that I found out why everyone was acting like they didn't want to be there from my mother.
Do you think they control the energy they give off? Do you think they did it on purpose to **** you off? So don't go next time? Why dwell on it and make it a big deal?
So, your mother, aunt and other cousin are feeling hurt at being regularly snubbed by your cousin and this resulted in an awkward get together where your cousin didn't do anything to try to make things right.
Now you intend to snub your mother, aunt and other cousin too for the rest of the year to hurt them as well because you didn't enjoy your evening?
If you cared for these people, why would you want to hurt them?
Because they hurt me by not wanting to go on a family trip next saturday which I had planned for and put money aside for the last 4 weeks. The dinner conversation was supposed to be about where we wanted to go next saturday and when everyone started saying they didn't want to go anywhere it shocked the hell out of me. So since they didn't want to get together in August and have fun as a family why they am I going to leave my apt on a cold Thanksgiving day to sit around them and get the same feeling I had last night?
Because they hurt me by not wanting to go on a family trip next saturday which I had planned for and put money aside for the last 4 weeks. The dinner conversation was supposed to be about where we wanted to go next saturday and when everyone started saying they didn't want to go anywhere it shocked the hell out of me. So since they didn't want to get together in August and have fun as a family why they am I going to leave my apt on a cold Thanksgiving day to sit around them and get the same feeling I had last night?
Do you think they control the energy they give off? Do you think they did it on purpose to **** you off? So don't go next time? Why dwell on it and make it a big deal?
No they didn't do it on purpose to make me mad but it still made me mad because I had no clue what was going on. That is not the type of outing I like being apart of and it ruined the entire the entire evening.
The thread is about my family not being upbeat and positive during dinner last night and deciding not to go on a family trip next saturday which we talked about all summer. So since that is the case why the hell do I want to see them the rest of this year? If you don't want to get together in August then why get together for Thanksgiving or Christmas?
I tried explaining to my mom that texting is not email and she needs to stop sending those celebrity birthdays in a text message. It just gives off the vibe that she is bored and has nothing to do so she sends stuff like that. And she is retired now so that is a big reason why she sends text like that and gets mad when she doesn't get a response. I told her she didn't act like this 15 years ago about hearing back from family maybe because she was younger.
OK this may change what I originally thought. So, you mom is sending texts that are junk? That's annoying so I understand why that doesn't get a response, but explain why there are a group of people upset at this cousin. I would bet it isn't likely that all of them just send out junk all the time.
In most cases contact deserves an answer. Especially from older relatives. Make allowances for older people. For example, my mom is in her eighties and doesn't text. I accept that and out of respect I call her every single time. Ignoring older people all the time is inexcusable and rude. Answer personal messages(not junk) from everyone no matter what form they are in. That is common courtesy.
Because they hurt me by not wanting to go on a family trip next saturday which I had planned for and put money aside for the last 4 weeks. The dinner conversation was supposed to be about where we wanted to go next saturday and when everyone started saying they didn't want to go anywhere it shocked the hell out of me. So since they didn't want to get together in August and have fun as a family why they am I going to leave my apt on a cold Thanksgiving day to sit around them and get the same feeling I had last night?
so, not about "vibes" like you said in your op?
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No they didn't do it on purpose to make me mad but it still made me mad because I had no clue what was going on. That is not the type of outing I like being apart of and it ruined the entire the entire evening.
Life is rough. Get over it.
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Originally Posted by renter16
The thread is about my family not being upbeat and positive during dinner last night and deciding not to go on a family trip next saturday which we talked about all summer. So since that is the case why the hell do I want to see them the rest of this year? If you don't want to get together in August then why get together for Thanksgiving or Christmas?
Why didn't you say that earlier?
Why are you letting one sub-par evening in August ruin the rest of your year? That's your issue, not theirs.
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