New Friends a little TOO friendly? (children, conversation, acquaintance, aging)
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Wow. Thanks for all of the responses! We'll try to "disentangle" ourselves (I laughed out loud at that) from this relationship a bit. The kids are close, so we'll have to try to figure out a way to be amicable about it, but it's nice to hear some confirmation that I'm not just being uptight.
Someone telling me about their 'cabinet/drawer' of 'toys' would have me running for the hills. That's way too much personal information. You are right to feel uncomfortable, I know I would.
He works second shift as does my girlfriend, and he'll invite my girlfriend over "so the boys can hang out" while both his wife and I'm at work during the day.
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has "interested in men and women" in her profile.
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Am I right for being skeptical
If it were me, my husband and I would have a very busy year coming up.
I agree something sounds hinky and suspect they are both hitting on you (individual or as a couple). You can always work into the conversation something like "my wife and I have always been very conservative about our marriage and that is very important to us." "We are kinda uncomfortable with talk like that."
I would try to move it back into the "friends" category and if they didn't take the hint, then back off.
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You might consider using a "sexual innuendo" statement to respond: "Hey, I don't wanna see your toys.....the only one I'm ever interested in is Amanda." Or, "ewwww.....we might seem like liberal folks but we are totally conventional, seriously!"
Or an offer to hang out without spouses: "Oh, no thanks....we're just old fashioned people and I only hang with the girls, and Jim only hangs with the guys."
I would never let my child be at their home without me being there also, and definitely not for sleepovers. No telling what he might be exposed to. Have their son always come to your house for play dates. Think up some excuse.
If they keep pushing the sex talk, just politely but very firmly tell them you are not interested in that kind of stuff and go on talking about something else. If they persist, you will just have to cut them off. Your GF's son will still be able to play with his friend at school.
I think we're all on the same page here. I would absolutely keep contact and communication to a minimum. I wouldnt answer any of their text requests with anything other than "no thanks". Just keep it simple and non-conversational.
I used to feel a bit bad about being so selective about who I choose to befriend, but now I feel completely justified.
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