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You're clearly confusing firmness with rudeness. Nowhere at any point did I yell at them or use profanity.
"Absolutely not!" is rude, no matter how convoluted your rationalization might be.
Again, you keep creating threads that speak to your confusion on how to deal with people, then you want to argue with people with better social antennae than you.
Old folks are like anyone else, you don't check their behavior at the door so they can get correct, it will only bring more BS down the line.
Again, you post one thread after another bemoaning your inability to have strong relationships in your life then, without a hint of self-awareness, you write things such as this. Have you ever considered the link between one and the other?
Again, you keep creating threads that speak to your confusion on how to deal with people, then you want to argue with people with better social antennae than you.
Ha! One time not too long ago, I even offered to meet the granddaughter as a friend, rather than as a future husband; all in a warm, polite tone. The lady declined with a simple "no, thank you". While I didn't push for an explanation, her refusal seemed like somewhat of a red flag.
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Old folks are like anyone else, you don't check their behavior at the door so they can get correct, it will only bring more BS down the line.
I reluctantly agree. While I'm willing to give elderly persons a pass for lots of things, refusing to take "no" for an answer isn't one of them. Especially for things like becoming someone's husband. (Here come MinivanDriver's accusations again. )
OK, look. I've had to tell elderly people to mind their own business before. I didn't enjoy having to do it. One time I was in the hospital waiting room and an older lady asked me in a loud voice "What are you here for?" It was none of her business, not something I wanted to announce to the entire waiting room. My husband thought I was "being mean to her" by refusing to tell her. Hey, that's life. If anything, an older person should know better by the time they get to that age.
Ha! One time not too long ago, I even offered to meet the granddaughter as a friend, rather than as a future husband; all in a warm, polite tone. The lady declined with a simple "no, thanks". While I didn't push for an explanation, that felt like somewhat of a red flag.
What? So these old folks are asking you to meet their grands with the express and sole purpose of immediate marriage, as in "I'd like you to meet her, but only if you're willing to marry her' ? They actually come out and say that? Sorry, but I don't believe that for a minute. I think you are seriously misreading or misunderstanding them.
To the OP, have you ever checked-out any of these granddaughters? You may have been missing some good opportunities. They might not be any more interested in marriage than you, but would have an inclination for some mutually-agreeable action of a less-enduring sort.
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Again, you post one thread after another bemoaning your inability to have strong relationships in your life then, without a hint of self-awareness, you write things such as this. Have you ever considered the link between one and the other?
Yes, I know since I'm not willing to go along to get along and let people walk all over me like some here are willing to do that is going to repel people which is fine by me anyway.
Ha! One time not too long ago, I even offered to meet the granddaughter as a friend, rather than as a future husband; all in a warm, polite tone. The lady declined with a simple "no, thank you". While I didn't push for an explanation, her refusal seemed like somewhat of a red flag.
I reluctantly agree. While I'm willing to give elderly persons a pass for lots of things, refusing to take "no" for an answer isn't one of them. Especially for things like becoming someone's husband. (Here come MinivanDriver's accusations again. )
Look, just because a fellow misanthrope agrees with you doesn't make you right. You both post untold numbers of posts here magnifying trivial offense one time, then wondering why you don't have a relationship the next. Seems like a clearcut pattern to me.
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One time not too long ago, I even offered to meet the granddaughter as a friend, rather than as a future husband; all in a warm, polite tone. The lady declined with a simple "no, thank you". While I didn't push for an explanation, her refusal seemed like somewhat of a red flag.
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