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My sweet mom and I always think of her always did this kind of thing.
However, she did this from about the early 1970's until about 2005 - she would read the newspaper; see an article on someone she knew or we knew, clip it out, write a handwritten note to the person and mail it.
There were always tons of newspapers at her house because she was "always going through them" but I will tell you at her memorial service so many people remembered this gesture of hers and loved her for it.
I can't even tell you the mail I would get - a clipping from "Dear Abby" about something - I think now it's precious.
My sweet mom and I always think of her always did this kind of thing.
However, she did this from about the early 1970's until about 2005 - she would read the newspaper; see an article on someone she knew or we knew, clip it out, write a handwritten note to the person and mail it.
There were always tons of newspapers at her house because she was "always going through them" but I will tell you at her memorial service so many people remembered this gesture of hers and loved her for it.
I can't even tell you the mail I would get - a clipping from "Dear Abby" about something - I think now it's precious.
Miss you, Mom!
My mother did the same thing. She passed suddenly. Upon cleaning out her home, I came across an envelope with clippings---my last set of clippings. One of them was titled "Goodnight, Mother" It was about losing one's mother. She had dated it in red ink---exactly one month prior to her passing. Although she was in good health for her age, it was like she knew she was going......That, along with the other articles, are among my cherished possessions.
I wouldn't have done it. I've gotten to the point in my life where there are certain memories, or people, there is no sense in re-connecting with, whether through reminiscing, or real life interaction. If I've gone years without thinking about a person, and then stumble on a letter, or old photo, I'm more likely to burn it. It's my way of just letting the past go and be forgotten. There's too much in my present life to tend to than to occupy myself with useless past memories of people and moments that either or negative, or hold no value to me anymore.
It's one of the reasons why I stopped using a lot of social media. I used to get friend requests from middle school and high school folks that I barely knew. I didn't see the point.
All my friends were mortified. I'm curious if you agree with them.
I started tossing out boxes of old pictures a few weeks ago. I threw out tons of old pics. The pictures I thought each person in the picture would enjoy of themselves, I mailed them. Some were three or four decades old. All my old friends who receive the pictures called and said they appreciated that I sent them!
I sent my long-ago boyfriend in college a photo taken with his college roommates. My girlfriends all thought it was inappropriate. I didn't think about it being a problem. I wasn't in the picture. I didn't put a return address on the mail....just a note enclosed with the picture saying I thought he would enjoy seeing the picture of himself and his old roomies again.
I'm long, happily married. He's long married, too.
What do you guys think?
I imagine your old BF was happy to get the pic. I think your girlfriends are wrong on this one.
LOL. My decades old friends remember him as we dated for many years and two still keep in touch with him and his family. My newer friends didn't know him, but said they wouldn't want any long-ago girlfriend sending anything to their husband.
I don't know why anyone would care about an ex-boyfriend/girlfriend after more than 30 years. Especially about a photo sent for their enjoyment. How very silly.....I agree, GuyInSD.
How and why do you still have his address to postal mail him a photo? Does he still live at home with his parents?
I wouldn't have done it. I've gotten to the point in my life where there are certain memories, or people, there is no sense in re-connecting with, whether through reminiscing, or real life interaction. If I've gone years without thinking about a person, and then stumble on a letter, or old photo, I'm more likely to burn it. It's my way of just letting the past go and be forgotten. There's too much in my present life to tend to than to occupy myself with useless past memories of people and moments that either or negative, or hold no value to me anymore.
It's one of the reasons why I stopped using a lot of social media. I used to get friend requests from middle school and high school folks that I barely knew. I didn't see the point.
Pretty much this. This is the reason why I was on linkdin for about 2 minutes. I did't think to create a new email address and used an old one. Big mistake. People started popping up I hadn't seen nor heard from in 10+ years. Delete! With all the technology available if I hadn't seen nor heard from someone in 30 years there is probably a good reason whether they are aware of it or not. I think looking at old photos brought up memories of the good old days, but one person's nostalgia could be another's nightmare.
I'm sue he appreciated it and either tossed it after enjoying it or kept it. No return address means no attempt at anything more. Non-issue. Thoughtful to send all those out!
So, did you tell your husband you sent this to him? I would think you would want to be upfront about it. And if you didn't tell your husband, why not, and what would he think of this?
Also, this ex maybe married, but what if he tries to reconnect with you? Have you decided how you would handle this if he does? I think this has the potential to be messy. And then, maybe not.
You see, it's not just sending a photo. There are a myriad of other things to consider.
There are a lot of questions.
*cue Freud* Sending a photo is just ... sending a photo.
There isn't a "myriad of other things" because it's not a photo of her/him, she didn't leave the return email and I'm sure if he did try to contact her, the OP would keep it to general pleasantries (hence, her saying she's happily married).
I think it was a cool idea. I wish friends/exes would send me pictures of me they come across. I was literally just thinking within the past few days that I have almost no pictures from 80's and 90's. I know I was in countless of them over the past 30 years but somehow I dont have them. It would be nice to have some of those memories (some I'd like to forget)
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