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We get together every few weeks to catch up and sometimes take a weekend or day trip also.
If we are together all day I don't expect her to stay off the phone all day but when we are eating out it seems so rude. I have mentioned it enough that she knows how I feel about it. I can tell she is irritated that this bothers me. Last week we had 4 gals at the table and after she texted a few minutes I asked if she could do that later so we could enjoy the meal. She asked the 2 other gals if they minded and they said they didn't so she continued. Sometimes she will tell me what so & so is texting and what she is texting back. urgggg
It is at the point that I either need to decline plans to go eat and tell her why or try one more time to explain
the problem. Should I just tell her I don't want to eat out with her unless she is willing to put her phone away. That leaves it up to her.
We get together every few weeks to catch up and sometimes take a weekend or day trip also.
If we are together all day I don't expect her to stay off the phone all day but when we are eating out it seems so rude. I have mentioned it enough that she knows how I feel about it. I can tell she is irritated that this bothers me. Last week we had 4 gals at the table and after she texted a few minutes I asked if she could do that later so we could enjoy the meal. She asked the 2 other gals if they minded and they said they didn't so she continued. Sometimes she will tell me what so & so is texting and what she is texting back. urgggg
It is at the point that I either need to decline plans to go eat and tell her why or try one more time to explain
the problem. Should I just tell her I don't want to eat out with her unless she is willing to put her phone away. That leaves it up to her.
Yes you should. But I’d do it in a very quiet, matter-of-fact, “this is something that really bothers me and I’d like to talk to you about it” kind of way without being confrontational. Then follow through. The first time you decline she’ll finally understand that you’re serious. But be prepared for it to end the friendship unless she cares enough to change her behavior.
For the record, I agree with you. It’s really rude. If a friend ignores repeated requests to stop an annoying or offensive behavior I’d stop going out with her. It means she cares more about what she wants to do than she does about how you feel. That’s selfish. True friends don’t treat each other that way.
Yes you should. But I’d do it in a very quiet, matter-of-fact, “this is something that really bothers me and I’d like to talk to you about it” kind of way without being confrontational. Then follow through. The first time you decline she’ll finally understand that you’re serious. But be prepared for it to end the friendship unless she cares enough to change her behavior.
For the record, I agree with you. It’s really rude. If a friend ignores repeated requests to stop an annoying or offensive behavior I’d stop going out with her. It means she cares more about what she wants to do than she does about how you feel. That’s selfish. True friends don’t treat each other that way.
She is dear to me but she does tend to be self absorbed..
Yes you should. But I’d do it in a very quiet, matter-of-fact, “this is something that really bothers me and I’d like to talk to you about it” kind of way without being confrontational. Then follow through. The first time you decline she’ll finally understand that you’re serious. But be prepared for it to end the friendship unless she cares enough to change her behavior.
For the record, I agree with you. It’s really rude. If a friend ignores repeated requests to stop an annoying or offensive behavior I’d stop going out with her. It means she cares more about what she wants to do than she does about how you feel. That’s selfish. True friends don’t treat each other that way.
OP, you could meet this friend at a restaurant and if she starts texting ask her not to.
If she continues to text, stand up, tell her you are leaving and why, pay your check, leave the tip and move on with your day.
It appears to me that your presence is not as important to her as her presence is to you so leave her sitting at the table,
alone.
or
You could leave quietly while she is texting and see how long it takes her to notice you are gone.
OP, you could meet this friend at a restaurant and if she starts texting ask her not to.
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If she did stop she would be mad about it and I think if I ask her ahead of time it may avoid the drama.
The guy she used to date got mad at her about the same thing.
I think it's funny you keep hanging out with this boorish person.
Why do you do it?
There's literally zero reason to keep her in your life...she promise you a kidney or something?
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