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I try to be pleasant to all, but there is this one lady that is getting under my skin. We have several acquaintances in common and there are often social gatherings with these other couples that I am not included. She always makes it known that she was invited (but I was not). I don't know how to respond to her constant needling that I am not part of the "in-crowd". I have been holding my tongue and acting like I do not care, but honestly it is starting to wear on me. There is no way to avoid these people and I live in a small town and frankly I don't want her to think she has influenced me.
My question is: what would be a good come back to stop her from being so nasty? I am always at a loss for words when she starts her harping. Thanks
While I just love some of the other's responses, I'd probably go with making her very uncomfortable.
You could say something along the lines of, "Wow - you must get some kind of pleasure out of trying to make me feel bad. I don't, actually, but why would you say something like that to me?"
Or I'd ignore her - forever. I'm mature like that.
I try to be pleasant to all, but there is this one lady that is getting under my skin. We have several acquaintances in common and there are often social gatherings with these other couples that I am not included. She always makes it known that she was invited (but I was not). I don't know how to respond to her constant needling that I am not part of the "in-crowd". I have been holding my tongue and acting like I do not care, but honestly it is starting to wear on me. There is no way to avoid these people and I live in a small town and frankly I don't want her to think she has influenced me.
My question is: what would be a good come back to stop her from being so nasty? I am always at a loss for words when she starts her harping. Thanks
Taking into account that I'm a crusty 71 yr old guy people like this get just what they ask for.....plain talk upside the head!!! Don't bait this old bear and expect to come out unscathed! I've learned not to cut people like this any slack and you should too!!
In other words....either publicly snub this person or tell this person just how you feel then turn and walk away.
Last edited by Retired in Illinois; 11-08-2017 at 11:34 AM..
How about "thank you for the update on who's invited where-- pls keep me posted!"
Don't recall where but I read one time a response to snarky things is to reply with something totally unrelated that confuses them and they are not able to get the hurt response they were looking for--- for example
Rude lady: "you weren't invited to Nancy's dinner"
You: " Can I borrow some sugar? I have brown, but I don't know if I can use it for sugar cookies?" Pleasant poker face
Her :" what?"
You: " hmm, oh you know I have a coupon so I better hurry to that sale, bye!"
Her: scratching head
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