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I'm mid thirties and the older I get the less social interaction I need. People just seem to irritate me. Is that normal? We just moved and I would like to make friends and find my tribe so to speak, but it ain't happening. Advice?
When I was younger, I used to love to be around people-now I just don't trust em.
I'm mid thirties and the older I get the less social interaction I need. People just seem to irritate me. Is that normal? We just moved and I would like to make friends and find my tribe so to speak, but it ain't happening. Advice?
When I was younger, I used to love to be around people-now I just don't trust em.
I believe this happens because the older we get, the less BS we are willing to put up with.
Ideally you understand yourself better and are more in tune with your own likes and dislikes. You probably don't need external validation the way you might have when you were young, so this is a good thing.
Advice? Just be patient. I stopped looking for my tribe. I stopped trying to find friends and just lived my life. The people who are real friends have made themselves known to me over time, and it's been nice. The circle might be smaller than when I was young, but I think it's stronger.
Young people need group membership more than older people. EVERYTHING is about fitting in with the crowd that has the job connections and social prospects. That is a very good reason to cultivate and maintain social position in a group.
When you become self sufficient and self actualizing, the irritations of people become hard to ignore. Whatever existed before on the plus side no longer offsets the garbage that was there the whole time. The mindless little rituals that make up part of belonging to a group become a tired charade and an irritation. The whole thing seems childish and small.
Unless you are weak minded and cannot stand being apart from a group and the identity/role that the group gives you, you'll be better off without it. When you don't have a group that is constantly trying to get you to fit into it's program, you can really grow and develop sides of yourself you probably didn't even know existed.
I believe this happens because the older we get, the less BS we are willing to put up with.
Ideally you understand yourself better and are more in tune with your own likes and dislikes. You probably don't need external validation the way you might have when you were young, so this is a good thing.
Advice? Just be patient. I stopped looking for my tribe. I stopped trying to find friends and just lived my life. The people who are real friends have made themselves known to me over time, and it's been nice. The circle might be smaller than when I was young, but I think it's stronger.
You are exactly right. I would like to have a bestie though. I miss having a girlfriend I could be completely honest with.
Don't give in to those types of feelings.I have been betrayed by a lot of people whom I thought were my friends..whom I have known for years.Always try to remember that there are a lot of good decent people out there in the world but if you keep the negative thoughts about people in general like you have...you will miss those nice people.
Obviously there have been things you've gone through to make you feel this way about people...I know it's hard to believe but don't give in to that type of thinking.
No, no. We are still here. We have made friends with the neighbors, even the elderly parking spot guy. They are pretty nice-but they are really nosy.
I'm glad to hear everything worked out with the old man.
I've found that the older you get, the more difficult it becomes to make new friends.
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