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My sister and I purchased a home together last year. Only I was dating at the time and I would usually visit my boyfriend at his place. My sister started dating shortly after we purchased the home. The guy she is dating is 35 and currently lives at home with his parents. He has been divorced for approximately 4 years and does work. He does spend most of his time sleeping at our place, which I do not like at all as he does not contribute to the household. Currently he is spending approximately 3 weeks sleeping at our house as his and my sister's job is on a shutdown. I asked my sister to please ask him to pay at least for the utilities and she agreed to ask, but initially she got upset that I would even ask her to do something like that.
Last night, my sister and I were eating dinner in the kitchen when our garage door opened. I got really scared and thought to call the police, but it was her boyfriend. I did not know he had our garage door code and he just walked into our kitchen like nothing happened. I told him never to do that again and to always ring the doorbell. That's common sense, but why would someone do that if they know that person is home?! It angers me so much as I have to control my temper with him in respect for my sister...
Please give advice on what you would do with someone who doesn't contribute and also doesn't present common sense. We are two women living in a home and I sure wouldn't do that to anyone.
yep! and I knock when I visit him as well. anyone I have ever known knocks lol
Except your sister and her BF?
You need to talk to your sister about rules and expectations. There is a difference, and right now YOU have some expectations that she may or may not know about but we don't know if y'all set any house rules.
You have to have a discussion and compromise just like you would with any other roommate.
My sister and I purchased a home together last year. Only I was dating at the time and I would usually visit my boyfriend at his place. My sister started dating shortly after we purchased the home. The guy she is dating is 35 and currently lives at home with his parents. He has been divorced for approximately 4 years and does work. He does spend most of his time sleeping at our place, which I do not like at all as he does not contribute to the household. Currently he is spending approximately 3 weeks sleeping at our house as his and my sister's job is on a shutdown. I asked my sister to please ask him to pay at least for the utilities and she agreed to ask, but initially she got upset that I would even ask her to do something like that.
Last night, my sister and I were eating dinner in the kitchen when our garage door opened. I got really scared and thought to call the police, but it was her boyfriend. I did not know he had our garage door code and he just walked into our kitchen like nothing happened. I told him never to do that again and to always ring the doorbell. That's common sense, but why would someone do that if they know that person is home?! It angers me so much as I have to control my temper with him in respect for my sister...
Please give advice on what you would do with someone who doesn't contribute and also doesn't present common sense. We are two women living in a home and I sure wouldn't do that to anyone.
Tell him directly he needs to use the doorbell.
Also ask him directly when he plans on splitting 1/3 of the rent & utiltiies since he lives there.
If he's there just half of the time, anytime throughout the day or evening, maybe pro-rate it
He will then spend more time at mom and dads where he probably is paying rent (or was)
Don't keep bugging your sister about it. He may become your brother in law someday
Hopefully she plans on paying for him the rest of her life,, if this occurs
odd question. Why would he do otherwise?
she lives with her sister remember
and she has already spoken to her about "rules and expectations" by requesting he use the doorbell like normal people
yet he responded like you did.
Are you reading the thread at all?
You need to talk to your sister about rules and expectations. There is a difference, and right now YOU have some expectations that she may or may not know about but we don't know if y'all set any house rules.
You have to have a discussion and compromise just like you would with any other roommate.
well my sister lives with me so she doesn't have to knock. Her BF is not a resident, but yes it has been a couple times where I didn't know he was there sleep in her room and I thought I was home alone and yes I did walk around with nothing on as I thought I was alone... he left out of the garage and I called the police as I thought someone was in the house with me.
I have talked to her about that and swore each time it wouldn't happen again. I'm just tired of the foolishness.
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