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A family member asked the same of us, but he suggested we drive his car there. I think that's fair. She can drive there with you as a passenger, and you'll drive the car back. If you don't want to use your car, say so. If you don't want to do it because it's time consuming, just tell her you can't do it.
This is the way I'd do it - and also she'd need to pony up for gas and any airport fees. And lunch.
A family member asked the same of us, but he suggested we drive his car there. I think that's fair. She can drive there with you as a passenger, and you'll drive the car back. If you don't want to use your car, say so. If you don't want to do it because it's time consuming, just tell her you can't do it.
However, she already said she would do it so that would be rather unkind to change her mind without a really important reason.
OP, next time something like this happens and don't know what to say try this: "let me get back with you on that" or "I'll have to check my schedule and let you know". That gives you time to determine whether it is really something you want to do instead of feeling like you have to say yes because you were put on the spot.
Is she good looking? If yes, she maybe feels that you should thank her for being next to you for hours in the same car and maybe you need to pay her. You are lucky to get it for free.
A family member asked the same of us, but he suggested we drive his car there. I think that's fair. She can drive there with you as a passenger, and you'll drive the car back. If you don't want to use your car, say so. If you don't want to do it because it's time consuming, just tell her you can't do it.
Bad idea. If OP gets into a wreck in the roommate's car, the friendship and roommate situation can go south and legal problems follow as well. Just do it, OP and drive your own car. You said the roommate dropped you off at the airport before, right? Even if she didn't do it this one time and ask her to maybe get another ride next time. Parking at the airport is expensive and getting a ride with Uber or whatever is expensive too so it's always nice to get a ride if you can.
If you are going to do this favor, you should ask for gas money. 4 hrs driving is a tank of gas, probably about $50.
You probably need to follow through this time. If there is a nearby shuttle pickup, you could offer to drive her and pick her up from that location in the future. That way, you are helping, but it isn't a huge burden on you.
You said yes and you need to follow through but take this as a lesson on why you need to learn how to say no. Saying no does not make someone mean. You don’t have to make excuses or lie either. Just google it,there are dozens of sites with useful tips.
Well, you did say yes. You should honor your word this time, or risk her (justified) anger—you’re the one who still has to live with her if you bail out. But make a mental note to decline next time. Tell her you didn’t realize it was going to be a 4 hour round trip, which is hard on your car. Suggest Uber or Lyft next time.
It's not going to be a four hour round trip--it's 2 hours back and forth to drop her off, then several days later 2 hours to go back and pick her up.
If the OP wants to back out, fine, but don't wait until the last minute so that she doesn't have time to make other arrangements. Or you could think of it as good karma doing for others.
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