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It's well-disguised. To draw attention to one's self, no matter what the emotion, is not acceptable. Think British stiff upper lip. Even when we're seething inside, it would be an unforgiveable offense to make a scene.
My brother is a world-class holder of grudges. He remembers things that were said or done fifty years ago. Just this week, he snapped at my mother about her treatment of him when he was a kid. Now, mind you, my mother had no business raising kids, but after a while you just have to let that stuff go.
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I've got more family members with anger issues than I'd care to admit.
What gets me is how other family members have to dance around egg shells to avoid blowouts by these loose cannons.
Personally, I have learned to stand my ground, but others either seem stressed out or just resigned to live in fear of their own family.
How about you?
Yeah, my mother has a temper. My dad was a very angry guy but was more quiet about it. My cousins anger ratchets up to beating his son. I myself go from zero to p$#&ed off in 4 seconds.
I've got more family members with anger issues than I'd care to admit.
What gets me is how other family members have to dance around egg shells to avoid blowouts by these loose cannons.
Personally, I have learned to stand my ground, but others either seem stressed out or just resigned to live in fear of their own family.
How about you?
Yep, father and one sibling. My dad got angry over events and things, not people so much, but the sibling spares nothing to this day. They were amazingly alike though neither saw or admitted it. They fought like cats. It's always been obvious to the rest of us. When either one of them started firing the rest of us scattered. Part of that was self-preservation but part of it was to remove any satisfaction from landing a blow.
Yep, father and one sibling. My dad got angry over events and things, not people so much, but the sibling spares nothing to this day. They were amazingly alike though neither saw or admitted it. They fought like cats. It's always been obvious to the rest of us. When either one of them started firing the rest of us scattered. Part of that was self-preservation but part of it was to remove any satisfaction from landing a blow.
I can relate....
Glad to be on my own for Thanksgiving...no family strife!
Not usually. My sister can be crazy but not angry haha just emotionally unstable in the past. She seems to have gotten a lot better since getting engaged and now married. A happier person. Still can be very annoying though and still as narcissistic as usual lol.
People tend not to want to make me angry. They wouldn’t like me when I’m angry.
I've got more family members with anger issues than I'd care to admit.
What gets me is how other family members have to dance around egg shells to avoid blowouts by these loose cannons.
Personally, I have learned to stand my ground, but others either seem stressed out or just resigned to live in fear of their own family.
How about you?
I'm impressed by the amount of metaphors you've used in a single sentence.
Cut them out of my life. One event decades ago is one thing, but for someone who is consistently an A--H--- and NO ONE likes it, trash can. Dead to me.
It's well-disguised. To draw attention to one's self, no matter what the emotion, is not acceptable. Think British stiff upper lip. Even when we're seething inside, it would be an unforgiveable offense to make a scene.
Totally the dynamic in our British family, too.
The fact that my husband and I think my BIL is a selfish narcissist, kept us from spending time with my sister and her family. Now my sister is gone, and I’m sad about all the wasted years. I was always afraid my husband would let him have it, so we avoided them.
Did this for years tip toeing around a very angry sister and it got worse. Each episode or outburst validated to her it was okay to be like that until one day she went too far. I should have cut her off years ago instead of putting up with the emotional and verbal abuse for the sake of my mother.
I loved my sister until one day I didn’t. What I’ve learned is that there are some people that have a floating inner rage looking for a host to unleash that fury on and nothing you say or do will change it. They are a lost cause, and standing your ground Doesn’t result in much except as fuel for their rage. I stopped being her fuel,her host,her scapegoat.
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