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Apparantly, my wife's sister-in-law (brothers wife) has a big mouth and has been trash talking MY parents to their neighbors. Not sure why she is doing this as they haven't done anything to her, and have actually helped her out a few times, but she has a big mouth and usually whatever thought pops in her head also pops out her mouth.
I don't think my parents are offended - but unfortuantely her crassness just really makes my wife and her family look bad.
Just wondering if there is anything I should say or do about this.
Going to my parents neighbors and telling them that my parents are wealthy snobs that she can't stand.
Neither my spouse nor this woman's husband have any control over her....I don't think there is anything we can do. It just makes my choice in of a family to marry into look bad.
I think you are entirely too concerned about what other people think. If you and your wife are content, and have a good relationship with your parents, then let the rest go. You'll be happier for it.
OK, so I think I have it figured out. This woman is a drama queen, and she drops comments like that knowing that it will upset people and then she'll get more attention.
Doing nothing is clearly the correct answer. My parents outstanding reputation in the community won't be harmed by her flapping her mouth, and being quiet is the best answer.
Going to my parents neighbors and telling them that my parents are wealthy snobs that she can't stand.
Neither my spouse nor this woman's husband have any control over her....I don't think there is anything we can do. It just makes my choice in of a family to marry into look bad.
I think you're worrying too much what other people think. I'm sure that your parent's neighbors see more of your parents than they do of this woman and are more likely to see your parents for who they really are - and if they like the people your parents are, her bad mouthing isn't going to change that (and if it does, then you know who your real friends are anyway). But really, I think their neighbors probably don't care or don't want to get involved to begin with.
I am not sure why her behavior reflects badly onto "your choice in of a family to marry into". You did not marry this woman. And your wife did not marry this women either so I don't know why it would reflect badly on her either. Neither of you are responsible for her actions, neither of you chose her to enter your family. Anyone who thinks badly of you because of what this woman has said or done isn't someone you want to be socializing with anyway.
I'm guessing that she really only sees your parent's neighbors when she is invited to your parent's house. Here's an idea - stop inviting her to your parents house. I know you probably can't just cut her out of your lives entirely, but you don't have to invite her/her husband to every single get together, right? If they ask why they are not invited to your parent's house anymore, be honest but tactful - "We were a little hurt to discover you were saying some offensive things about them to their neighbors."
I think you're worrying too much what other people think. I'm sure that your parent's neighbors see more of your parents than they do of this woman and are more likely to see your parents for who they really are - and if they like the people your parents are, her bad mouthing isn't going to change that (and if it does, then you know who your real friends are anyway). But really, I think their neighbors probably don't care or don't want to get involved to begin with ...
^^^THAT. The neighbors probably see the SIL for the gossip she is. And if they don't, they aren't worth knowing.
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Apparantly, my wife's sister-in-law (brothers wife) has a big mouth and has been trash talking MY parents to their neighbors. Not sure why she is doing this as they haven't done anything to her, and have actually helped her out a few times, but she has a big mouth and usually whatever thought pops in her head also pops out her mouth.
I don't think my parents are offended - but unfortuantely her crassness just really makes my wife and her family look bad.
Just wondering if there is anything I should say or do about this.
You aren't the only one who knows she is crazy. They do too. Let her be. She will learn without you having to bring down the hammer. She will create her own web of entanglement and it will teach her.
If you must say something, just ask her something like "I hear you've been telling the neighbors *such and such* and I'm wondering if you have a question for me or if there's something I can help you with?"
But don't expect this to resolve anything with this type of person until her heart and inner person is at peace.
I'd sit back and let her actions come back on her. Later, when she's at the end of her rope, offer her grace and forgiveness - she'll need lots of it.
Biblical principle: vengeance is mine says the Lord...and Jesus says, "I come not to condemn but to forgive."
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