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I respect people who don’t drink: they save money and sleep better. I assume that they’re fundamentalist Christians or recovering alcoholics.
There are a lot more non-drinkers out there, than you'd think, and it's not because they're recovering from alcoholism. They're simply not interested in alcohol, and no, they're not religious, many of them. Some grew up in a family with an alcoholic parent, so they don't want anything to do with alcohol, others simply don't like the taste of most alcohol, or don't see the point of it.
Only one of my friends in college had any interest in alcohol, for example. You may be surrounded by such people, and not know it, because it doesn't come up in conversation. There's no reason to mention it, so these people tend to be invisible.
There are a lot more non-drinkers out there, than you'd think, and it's not because they're recovering from alcoholism. They're simply not interested in alcohol, and no, they're not religious, many of them. Some grew up in a family with an alcoholic parent, so they don't want anything to do with alcohol, others simply don't like the taste of most alcohol, or don't see the point of it.
Only one of my friends in college had any interest in alcohol, for example. You may be surrounded by such people, and not know it, because it doesn't come up in conversation. There's no reason to mention it, so these people tend to be invisible.
I'm in my 3rd week of going to AA meetings DAILY. Best thing I've ever done. Now that I'm sober I can take 3 steps back and look at all of the damage I've done in/to my life because of my drinking. If somebody has a problem with you abstaining from drinking, move on.
The sites often have checklists for these questions, for instance you check if you don’t drink or if you’re a social drinker. Vast majority will put social drinker. No one said it’s important to them. I had social drinker checked but I probably drink a few times a year. Just cause they have that checked doesn’t mean they won’t date someone who doesn’t drink either. I had social drinker checked, but when my ex told me on first date he’s 13 years in recovery I had no issue with it.
I'm sure you're right. I don't use dating sites. Guess no one really ever knows just which of those unchecked boxes was the reason someone never contacts the profiled person. I assumed this came out in initial conversation between them.
I'm in my 3rd week of going to AA meetings DAILY. Best thing I've ever done. Now that I'm sober I can take 3 steps back and look at all of the damage I've done in/to my life because of my drinking. If somebody has a problem with you abstaining from drinking, move on.
I don't drink. No addiction issues, I really don't enjoy the taste. I have 3-4 drinks I can tolerate. My friends are cool with it, but I have def been left out of things in the past. I have also had guys break it off, or stop dating me once they realize I don't really drink..
No issue with those who drink here and there. And I still enjoy going out to bars and to concerts and sporting events. I just personally don't like alcohol. I wish more people just accepted that someone doesn't drink. And nobody owes anybody an explanation as to WHY. Just accept their "no thank you" and move on, ya know?
John Mulaney's joke about not drinking was, and sometimes is, still basically my life at parties;
Well, I don't drink, either. And surely any real friend would be supportive of someone combatting any problem, alcohol or otherwise. I'd tell your friend that he shouldn't be concerned what people think in this case, but should tend to his own welfare. And if people aren't supportive, then he's lucky to find out now that they're not true friends.
Nevertheless, if he's going to hang out with people who drink, he shouldn't adopt a virtuous, lecturing stance, because that will naturally tee off people. In fact, for his own safety, he should avoid openly drinking situations, so as to remove the temptation. In other words, meet friends at a restaurant, not a bar.
I don’t drink because of a medical condition and several medications that don’t interact well with alcohol. It’s been several years. I still get people saying ‘oh one won’t hurt’. One person I met a couple of years ago quickly decided we couldn’t be friends because she thought it was weird that I don’t drink. When you don’t drink, it makes people self-conscious about their own drinking. And sometimes they don’t like what they see.
There are a lot more non-drinkers out there, than you'd think, and it's not because they're recovering from alcoholism. They're simply not interested in alcohol, and no, they're not religious, many of them. Some grew up in a family with an alcoholic parent, so they don't want anything to do with alcohol, others simply don't like the taste of most alcohol, or don't see the point of it.
Only one of my friends in college had any interest in alcohol, for example. You may be surrounded by such people, and not know it, because it doesn't come up in conversation. There's no reason to mention it, so these people tend to be invisible.
I think it's part of the maturation process. I did my share of drinking when I was younger, but as I've gotten older alcohol simply has lost its appeal. I'll go months without drinking because I simply have no desire to. But every so often I'll find myself in a social setting and I'll have a beer or a bourbon and coke. Alcohol has always been a take it or leave thing with me. It's never interfered with my home life or work life. When I retired I always thought I'd be out back with a pitcher of margaritas every afternoon. Turns out I don't even like margaritas that much. So much for that idea. At my weekly retiree lunch everyone has beer except for me. But no one has ever chided me for not drinking. I personally wouldn't want to be around a group of people that tried to pressure me into drinking and didn't respect my desire to not drink.
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