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Like others have said, why would you go to her employer? It makes no sense to me and I'm sure will make less sense to them.
You never married your ex-fiance; the girl messaging you is not your sister in law. Thankfully.
You said your ex fiance is slandering you. Where is she doing this? Is she posting it on facebook? Did you screen shot any of it?
As for whatever your ex's sister said, make sure you screen shot it if you block her because if I remember right, once you block her, you'll lose the message, same if she puts her profile offline. You may even want to print it out for proof if you need it later.
I'm being harassed online by someone. I've been screen shotting and printing for the day I've had enough and I go to the cops to get a restraining order placed. You could do the same.
I agree with others, block the ****** and if you want reply with a yawn (I like that suggestion) or say is that all you have? LMFAO! then block. I also agree with reporting it to facebook. Maybe they'll give her a few days time out. I've had my harasser banned from find a grave with 3 accounts she used. Now she's IP banned. I never had to reply. She tried emailing me on my fathers birthday 2 years ago from an email account that had my fathers name; I replied back with a nasty 3 page letter she wrote my father. She didn't know I had that.
As someone who's being harassed and who's name is being trashed, I know how you feel. It sucks. I have a feeling your ex will start dating quickly which will show everyone that she was to blame for the break up. She's not in control of your own friends, by all means vent to them.
Good luck and you're really lucky this happened now before you get a few years into marriage with possibly a kid then you could be responsible for child support and being tied to this toxic family for life.
well I think you got the message in all these posts and it's helped. Why invite drama into your life eh! Don't give this person the satisfaction of knowing she pulled your chain, she is NOT relevant to your life.
I would stop worrying or wasting time corresponding or having any contact with your finance’s family. She decided to cancel the wedding for whatever reason. I would simply stop any contact. Let them say whatever they want. Who gives a hoot. It’s not like you’re gonna jump back into marriage now. The thing is that you’re lucky. You’re seeing what would of been your new family’s true faces. It wouldn’t be worth me giving them the time of the day
Of they start threatening you give all the messages to the cops. You can also have a lawyer get involved and possibly get TRO/RO against them.
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No one cares... Ignore it or sue her for deflamation
You thinking you should contact this person's employer or place of employment makes you sound mentally disturbed, emotionally disturbed, emotionally immature, and have very poor judgment.
Not sure why several people (or more) are saying you "dodged a bullet with not having this person or other family members as your in-law relatives" when it is you who sounds mentally disturbed with poor judgment.
And you asking if 'public shaming' is something you should do to this person is more evidence of your mental disturbance, radically poor judgment, and lack of emotional maturity.
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Let. It. Go.
Of course you are upset now, but honestly you will look back some day and just shake your head. Reporting it to anyone, staying mad, etc just wears you out and solves nothing.
I know how hard it is to just move on and be the better person can be hard, but ultimately it is in your own best interest.
You thinking you should contact this person's employer or place of employment makes you sound mentally disturbed, emotionally disturbed, emotionally immature, and have very poor judgment.
Not sure why several people (or more) are saying you "dodged a bullet with not having this person or other family members as your in-law relatives" when it is you who sounds mentally disturbed with poor judgment.
And you asking if 'public shaming' is something you should do to this person is more evidence of your mental disturbance, radically poor judgment, and lack of emotional maturity.
This is a very good point! You actually reminded of a time many moons ago when I broke up with an ex that I realized shortly after wasn't playing with a full deck and he did threaten to tell my employer "all about me" which to this day I still have no idea what he thought they would care about since I was just a waitress at a run of the mill chain restaurant and there was no dramatic secret to tell other than I had gotten wise to his drama. Maybe the ex fiance is the one who really dodged the bullet??
This is a very good point! You actually reminded of a time many moons ago when I broke up with an ex that I realized shortly after wasn't playing with a full deck and he did threaten to tell my employer "all about me"
I've noticed that people in forums (including CD) sometimes (or even often) take up a stance of excessive support, excessive empathy, and excessive sympathy for dubious questionable characters and the stance includes that the poster has done little or no wrong or is a victim and just by the mere fact that the poster is willing to share time and a problem with other posters.
The responding posters respond with an unspoken sense of gratefulness and thankfulness that the OP is willing to spend time with others on the forum and this elicits a ridiculous level of gratefulness/empathy/sympathy and a ridiculous level of loyalty to questionable dubious characters.
All of the above excessiveness is carried out when very little to nothing is known about the OP or when the OP's behavior or personality are questionable. One does not know who the person is behind their online identity. Thinking you know the person behind the online identity is very naive. Excess loyalty in gratefulness is seen for a regular poster (or even any poster) who fills up the time of readers and acts like a 'friend'. And an OP (or any poster) tells other posters who he/she is through their posts, but excessively grateful or loyal responding posters refuse to see it or pretend not to see it.
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