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Because, as I learned the hard way, in certain situations that's a good way to make enemies among your co-workers and to insure that some of them that are paid less will never be available if you need help with a project. In your personal life, it can also encourage those that make less to think that you must have money to spare and suddenly see an ATM sign above your head.
It would be interesting to ask you in 10 or 15 years and see if your opinion changes as you gain personal experience and your salary increases.
I know this is OT, but the above is very true in some workplaces where raises are given for performance, and where salaries for positions are not cast in stone. Some people in the same job title may be making significantly higher salary and so resentment at knowing who is getting more, and why, starts gossip and sniping, etc. I remember once getting a double step raise, which was rare at our agency, for excellent performance that year and being told by my superior not to tell anyone or everyone else would start expecting the same.
I just don't care. People say lots of things in public that I would rather not have to listen to. My action is ignore and move on unless they seem to be threatening me in some way. If they continue, I either change the subject or play along by asking questions about their personal business which turns them off almost immediately. As a last resort, I just walk off.
It’s not just young people doing this. I hear just as many seniors gabbing about their personal business on their phones, sometimes on speakerphone! It’s the day we live I suppose, people are losing their filters.
Does anyone else besides me notice that young people tell all their Personal business over the phone or in public ? .......
It isn't only young people who do it, but young people who do it a lot are an indication of them being too sheltered and protected, and of their parents not possessing and not teaching their kids survival skills and why it's important to keep their mouths shut at inappropriate times. Their parents probably also share too much information about themselves and possess no common sense survival instincts of their own.
It's a worse situation now than it was 40 years ago before the advent of cell phones and internet for everyone. It's a sign of the times and of the personal luxuries and technological privileges that people of all ages now take for granted and abuse. They think they are safe, but they are not.
People who are too friendly, or - friendly or not - who talk too much or share too much personal information in public or online are ALL people who have lost basic survival instincts and survival skills. They can be scammed and robbed blind from a distance or otherwise bullied, abused and harmed really easily. In real down to the mats or kill or be killed situations they are the losers who would be the first to be badly taken advantage of or to be given a seriously bad beating or to be killed.
then there's that "let it all hang out" concept in the last century to give them the idea (not very realistic) that there are "no consequences"--until they find that out themselves...
It isn't only young people who do it, but young people who do it a lot are an indication of them being too sheltered and protected, and of their parents not possessing and not teaching their kids survival skills and why it's important to keep their mouths shut at inappropriate times. Their parents probably also share too much information about themselves and possess no common sense survival instincts of their own.
It's a worse situation now than it was 40 years ago before the advent of cell phones and internet for everyone. It's a sign of the times and of the personal luxuries and technological privileges that people of all ages now take for granted and abuse. They think they are safe, but they are not.
People who are too friendly, or - friendly or not - who talk too much or share too much personal information in public or online are ALL people who have lost basic survival instincts and survival skills. They can be scammed and robbed blind from a distance or otherwise bullied, abused and harmed really easily. In real down to the mats or kill or be killed situations they are the losers who would be the first to be badly taken advantage of or to be given a seriously bad beating or to be killed.
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In my experience the biggest violators are women over 40.
Not saying that I don't think some share TMI, it's just that people around my age (I'm technically Gen-Z since I was born in 1995) tend not to place such a major importance on keeping some things to themselves. I pretty much don't mind telling anyone anything about myself, and I'm totally open to listening to what others have to say.
For example, I don't get why older people are so hesitant about telling others their salary. If someone wants to know, I'll give them that info.
You will be lucky if you survive financially intact and physically unharmed into your old age.
It’s not just young people doing this. I hear just as many seniors gabbing about their personal business on their phones, sometimes on speakerphone! It’s the day we live I suppose, people are losing their filters.
Well also...older people often have hearing loss. They speak louder because, subconciously, they assume if they can't hear other people, then those other people can't hear either. It's like when you try to talk to someone with ear buds in their ears, and they respond to you extra loud. lol
In my experience the biggest violators are women over 40.
You could be right in your observation, and it might also be a cultural thing for your location depending on how long you have been there. I have noticed in my travels that people in certain locations are more prone to divulge too much personal information to or in front of strangers compared with people in certain other locations, even though they may all be in the same country.
Personal business over the phone or in public ? Like I was checking out at the grocery store and the cashier was telling me about how she was working with her dad and she had to take a shower before she came to work and etc … I mean honestly I don't want to know their personal business ever . also when they are on the cell phone while in the store and you hear how their mom is their best friend and how she is mad at them right now … Oh please for god's sake and others stop airing your personal business out in public . Does anyone else seem to notice this ? I mean you cant help but hear it because some of them are speaking so loud .
No, it isn't just you and one finds it annoying as heck.
Have given up counting how many times am on a subway/train, bus, airplane, or anywhere else in public and someone is yapping about this or that in explicit detail. All of it in a voice loud enough to blow the froth off a Horlicks several feet away.
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