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Hey, I'm a single dude. I have a buddy of mine I've known for about 4 years. We consistently started to hang out again recently. I started to wonder why he has been hitting me up so often lately. Then I found out his girl dumped him. Now, he just got involved in another relationship (for about a month now). When I hit him up now to hang out, it's "oh I'm hanging with her on that night", or "oh man, ive got plans that night". Wtf? Why are people like that? They are only friends with you when they are single. Then when they enter another relationship, they disappear. I really want to hear what guys have to say(cause I'm a dude) about this. If you've had/have a "friend" like this, how did you handle the situation. Call them out on it? Or just write them off?
Your best bet is to find other friends or just date around until you find someone. This recently happened to me with a "friend" of mine. He finally found a gf and he's pretty much disappeared from my life. It sucks but I knew it would happen sooner or later. But it's a little different since we are the opposite sex. When people start relationships, they tend to take priority over everything else. Which is understandable, but it doesn't alleviate the discomfort of your friend basically being snatched away. But honestly, your friend lowkey sounds like an opportunist. I think it's best you don't say anything as it is unlikely to change the situation in any way. Just find new friends/associates and move on. If he does try to come back when/if his new relationship ends, you can choose to either to talk about it then or just ignore him.
I'm one of those people that value friendship. GF or not, I still want to hang out with friends (I made the mistake a while ago of abandoning my friends when I was in a relationship).
Your best bet is to find other friends or just date around until you find someone. This recently happened to me with a "friend" of mine. He finally found a gf and he's pretty much disappeared from my life. It sucks but I knew it would happen sooner or later. But it's a little different since we are the opposite sex. When people start relationships, they tend to take priority over everything else. Which is understandable, but it doesn't alleviate the discomfort of your friend basically being snatched away. But honestly, your friend lowkey sounds like an opportunist. I think it's best you don't say anything as it is unlikely to change the situation in any way. Just find new friends/associates and move on. If he does try to come back when/if his new relationship ends, you can choose to either to talk about it then or just ignore him.
Slightly different story but same lesson. Left my job 9 months ago. Not one person stayed in touch with me even though we hung out and stuff. A true friend stays with you no matter what.
Slightly different story but same lesson. Left my job 9 months ago. Not one person stayed in touch with me even though we hung out and stuff. A true friend stays with you no matter what.
This happens whether you're single or married. Work friends are just that, not true friends with the very rare exception.
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