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After much resistance to the idea, I finally joined Facebook. So far, I've only looked up some names of people I've known in the past at school or work just to see who might be on the site, and sent a message to a former (female) co-worker, but I'm not even sure if the person I sent the message to is the person I knew, or if the account is still active.
My question is this: Assuming I am able to contact people I knew 20 or more years ago using Facebook, exactly who should I contact? I'm thinking for example that there could be people on there that I haven't seen or spoken with in many years... people that I may have somehow hurt or wronged in the past (not many, but a few)... do I try to make contact with them now after all these years to apologize for things I may have done wrong all those years ago, or is the past better left in the past? How do you decide?
I have mostly family, a few coworkers and friends from high school on mine- It was fun the first few months but now I haven't logged on in about .......... a month.
Careful what you post on your Facebook, I've read about people being terminated from jobs due to what they have posted ... and be sure to make your privacy selections so no one can read it but your friends ! You don't want everyone looking at your page ...
I've really gotten into Facebook and I didn't think I would at first. That's because I've reconnected with friends and relatives who I'd lost touch with many years ago. I would recommend contacting anyone you were close to at some point in your life and just send them a message and see how they respond. I've seen some people who have hundreds and hundreds of Facebook friends but I'm not trying to do that, I'm focusing on people who I really want to keep in touch with.
Do you want 1000 'friends' with access to your stuff or a few friends?
Seems like so many people are F/B whores who just like to 'show off' how many friends they have...
i actually got talked into facebook too. one of my close friends invited me. honestly, i just waited until people wanted to friend me. then i decided if i wanted them or not. i think i have only tried to look for one or two people that i was desperately trying to get back into contact with.
i like to play the games, keep in contact with my brother and friends, just generally see how their lives are going etc.
there have been people who "wronged" me in the past who i was sure just wanted to get a look at my pics and family and info etc, so i completely ignored them
i have about 40 friends---not as many as most people-
I added people that I went to high school with, whose names I recognized. I'm not sure what type of relationship we had at the time, because I didn't really make any close friends, but I don't think I made many enemies either. Even if that was the case, 20-25 years later, I would figure we'd both forgotten the past, and are willing to start fresh. Consider reunions--do you REALLY hold any grudges against people you have not seen for 10 or 20 years? If so--why? People grow up and change, believe it or not.
I've seen some people who have hundreds and hundreds of Facebook friends but I'm not trying to do that, I'm focusing on people who I really want to keep in touch with.
Yes!
I also have a lot of family (cousins & their spouses) I've never met or haven't seen since we were 5 or 6 yo. FB is an easy, casual place to get to know them a bit. I personally wouldn't try to contact anyone I'd had trouble with in the past....life is just too short.
After much resistance to the idea, I finally joined Facebook. So far, I've only looked up some names of people I've known in the past at school or work just to see who might be on the site, and sent a message to a former (female) co-worker, but I'm not even sure if the person I sent the message to is the person I knew, or if the account is still active.
My question is this: Assuming I am able to contact people I knew 20 or more years ago using Facebook, exactly who should I contact? I'm thinking for example that there could be people on there that I haven't seen or spoken with in many years... people that I may have somehow hurt or wronged in the past (not many, but a few)... do I try to make contact with them now after all these years to apologize for things I may have done wrong all those years ago, or is the past better left in the past? How do you decide?
I couldn't tell you. The only reason I joined was that I had several friends and family members there that sent me request to join. Otherwise, I'd never have signed on. I keep my profile private - for friends only. I don't search for "new friends" there. I just don't use the site that way.
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