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Was it not too long ago that I was talking about how I am better off not hanging out with people? Did I not? Well, last night was a disaster worthy of me re-dumping the friends I already have.
So, one of my guy friends invites me over to hangout with 2 of his girlfriends. Well when I get there, he acts like he forgot his money at home, but yet all his other belongings are there with him.
So from there, we argued briefly because he has already owed me money from a trip out of town that we previously took. And Im like, well if you left your money at home...I'll take you by there to get it. He couldnt find his keys. So then he's promising to pay me back tomorrow, which is today.
Then we arrive at the bar, and the 2 girls are just bored out of their minds...everyone else is dancing, they are just texting. I told one of them, my motto is, "if they arent here at the club, they dont deserve to be getting your text messages". She then gave me a snobby look and rolled her eyes.
Then, the real deal breaker came when we left the bar, one of the girls wanted me to stop by her 'dudes' place. Long story short, they start arguing in the parking lot at 3 am because the guy wants to be alone with his friends and she wants to be with him. Next thing I know, my friend throws her purse into the street because she started being very nasty with everyone.
And thats typical. Always some drunk drama, and friends who always seem to not have money. It just gets to the point where I really dont have nothing to do with them.
The moment my friend said he didnt have any money, I should have said, "ok, well let me go to the car and get my wallet", and then drove the hell off
Was it not too long ago that I was talking about how I am better off not hanging out with people? Did I not? Well, last night was a disaster worthy of me re-dumping the friends I already have.
So, one of my guy friends invites me over to hangout with 2 of his girlfriends. Well when I get there, he acts like he forgot his money at home, but yet all his other belongings are there with him.
So from there, we argued briefly because he has already owed me money from a trip out of town that we previously took. And Im like, well if you left your money at home...I'll take you by there to get it. He couldnt find his keys. So then he's promising to pay me back tomorrow, which is today.
Then we arrive at the bar, and the 2 girls are just bored out of their minds...everyone else is dancing, they are just texting. I told one of them, my motto is, "if they arent here at the club, they dont deserve to be getting your text messages". She then gave me a snobby look and rolled her eyes.
Then, the real deal breaker came when we left the bar, one of the girls wanted me to stop by her 'dudes' place. Long story short, they start arguing in the parking lot at 3 am because the guy wants to be alone with his friends and she wants to be with him. Next thing I know, my friend throws her purse into the street because she started being very nasty with everyone.
And thats typical. Always some drunk drama, and friends who always seem to not have money. It just gets to the point where I really dont have nothing to do with them.
The moment my friend said he didnt have any money, I should have said, "ok, well let me go to the car and get my wallet", and then drove the hell off
All of my friends are great guys except one bad one that used to do that crap all the time to us guys. We all parted ways with him because he did that kind of thing to all of us. He is no longer a friend and all the other ones are. Don't give up the good ones.
I dont know why I always run into these type of people. Its been that way since the day I left High School. And Im 22 now.
Its like, the other descent people who are in college and who take care of themselves and go to the gym are no where to be found...or they seem to keep to themselves too. So I end up with dramatic friends who are constantly keeping up a mess.
In fact, last night...I had already made up my mind to go out alone and seek out new friends. Then all of a sudden, this guy calls and invites me over and another friend also messaged me.
Even when I went out, I still chatted with new people who I could...
Yup, time to start finding a better quality of friend. Apply a better "filter" when selecting friends and allowing who gets close.
"Filter" is a good word for it.
Joei, you're 22, so I'll add that not everyone you run into is going to have the same maturity level. Things are a bit touch-and-go in your age group. I remember how some of my friends were stand-up people, and others still acted like they were barely old enough to vote.
Maybe try doing some volunteer work or joining some clubs or organizations based on your interests. It will put you in contact with people who share your values and idea of a good time--and also people who have found better things to do than create drama.
First, I you should be inspired that Coolhand himself which I personally think is the most brilliant regular REALIST I've seen on C-D replied...I'm GUESSING his thoughts are 1:
1. You're friends are toxic; move on...(his words, not mine, yet I'm unsure if he feels this way in this situation).
2. My opinion....It's a you problem...You're the deal breaker...If you're going to bars, you FAILED to entertain the girls to keep them from texting in the first place...If you want to hang with "party girls" LEARN how to "party" and prevent them from rolling their eyes...
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